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Sounds Of Relaxation (And Productivity)

Let’s face it. There are a lot of distractions and I’m not just talking about cat videos, Baby Yoda memes, or FaceBook feeds. The world is a noisy, chaotic place. That’s just life in general. Finding peace and quiet can be difficult, especially if you want to work on something.

In college, I lived in an all-male dorm for a few years. It didn’t just get noisy. I heard sounds in those dorms that I can never unhear. I also smelled things I can never unsmell, but that’s beside the point.

Despite these distractions, I did manage to stay productive. I wrote many short stories, novels, and essays for my own enjoyment. It wasn’t easy with so many distractions. Thankfully, I discovered a useful tool that I’d like to share. It’s called brown noise.

It’s kind of what it sounds like. It’s just a steady flow of noise that you can play on your computer or phone that helps block out any external noise. In college, I had it as a two-hour MP3. Today, there are 10-hour YouTube videos that do the same and I can consider them a godsend. They help create this private domain in which I can focus, work, and conjure all sorts of ideas for novels and short stories.

If you’ve ever found yourself in a similar situation, I encourage you to give it a try. If you have an internet connection and a good pair of headphones, it’s completely free. Here’s a video of the noise I often use when I write.

If you want something that sounds a bit more natural, then try rain. It’s also great if you’re trying to nap in the middle of the day.

A few variations even incorporate thunder, which some find relaxing. One of my old roommates used to use that while studying.

If you need something with a bit of a rhythm, try a little light jazz music. While this has never worked well for me, I know some people who just need music to stay focused.

These aren’t the only sounds that can help with relaxation or productivity. I encourage everyone to experiment a little. Go on YouTube and find different videos. Eventually, you’ll find something that gets your mind in the right place and your world will be richer because of it.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Shared Blanket Edition

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It’s the middle of winter. It’s cold outside and it’s going to stay cold for at least two more months, no matter what some groundhog in Pennsylvania says. I’m not a big fan of winter. I know staying warm isn’t always easy. In college, I lived in dorms without effective heating. I know that challenge well.

That said, cold weather can still create some sexy opportunities. One of the simplest and most underrated is sharing a blanket with your lover. It’s a simple scenario. It’s freezing cold outside. The heater in your place is only doing so much, if you have it. Rather than just shiver, you find a big blanket, curl up next to your lover, and let natural body heat and sexy forces do the rest.

I know from experience that this is a great way to stay warm on cold nights. When I was dating my ex-girlfriend, sharing a big blanket was a fun way of making things feel intimate. It gave us yet another reason to cuddle and caress. In any healthy relationship, you can never have too many of those.

Winter might not make for the most romantic circumstances. It’s hard to make dressing in layers overly sexy. At the same time, there are opportunities to get frisky with your lover and curling up under a blanket is one of them. I hope these Sexy Sunday Thoughts will inspire couples out there to take advantage of those opportunities, if only to make winter more bearable. Enjoy!


“Praying is one of the least effective contraceptives out there and yet it’s still one of the most commonly used.”


“Crime doesn’t pay in the long run, but it can get you laid in the short run and that’s the next best thing.”


“The extent of someone’s sexual repression is directly proportional to how reluctant they are to describe their or someone else’s genitals.”


“Take a moment to appreciate that someone had to test the sex toys that never made it to stores.”


“To some extent, falling in love is being attracted to someone who affects your genitals in a particular way.”


“Shame keeps people from having sex in public, but pride convinces some they can get away with it.”


“Isn’t it hypocritical for people to protest decadence when a sizable chunk of the human population exists because of it?”


I’ll say it again. Cold weather sucks. I’d much rather be in a tropical setting wearing a swimsuit and getting a tan. However, being romantic sometimes means being resourceful with your circumstances. When you have a lover and a nice blanket to share, then you don’t need much else to stay warm.

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Little Things That Make My Saturdays More Satisfying

As kids, we love Saturdays because it means no school, cartoons, and extra time with friends.

As adults, we love Saturdays because it means no work, no commuting, and extra time with friends and family.

The appeal is similar. It just manifests in different forms. Those who have to work on Saturdays appreciate it even more. I know this because one of my first jobs out of college was working at a company that required weekend shifts. Trust me. When you have to lose part of your weekend for the sake of your job, you feel it. At the same time, it helps you appreciate everyone who makes that sacrifice.

I don’t have that job anymore, but I’m glad I had that experience. I don’t take Saturdays for granted anymore. It made those little things that make the weekends great feel more meaningful. For those reading this, even if it’s not on a Saturday morning, I encourage you to embrace those little things as well.

To help in that effort, I’d like to share some of those meaningful moments that help make my Saturdays so rewarding. If you have moments of your own that you’d like to share, please do so in the comments. These are just some of mine and I’m sure I’ll find more as I get older, especially when I meet that special someone.

Little Thing #1: Having a nice cup of coffee while reading comics on my iPad.

Little Thing #2: Wearing my soft plush bath robe (and nothing else).

Little Thing #3: Lying in bed naked and stretching my limbs.

Little Thing #4: Randomly watching an old episode of “Rick and Morty” or “The Simpson.”

Little Thing #5: Having breakfast with my friend, a sibling, or one of my awesome parents.

Little Thing #6: Having a cup of cocoa and marshmallows (especially when it’s freezing cold).

Little Thing #7: Randomly watching one of my favorite movies.

Little Thing #8: Cooking an overly elaborate breakfast for myself.

Little Thing #9: Creating a random playlist on my phone and listen to music while playing puzzle games in my iPad.

Little Thing #10: Putting on a pair of underwear that came straight out of the dryer (seriously, try this).

Little Thing #11: Going for an extended jog along the local trails.

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How I Made My Morning Cup Of Coffee More Awesome (By Accident)

As I write this, I have a fresh cup of coffee right next to my keyboard. If you’re reading this early in the morning, chances are you have some coffee too. We’re in good company. A nice cup of coffee is a great way to start your day. Whether you have a full time job, are an overworked college student, or retired, coffee is one of those magical elixirs that gets us going in the morning.

It’s not just a multi-billion dollar industry. It has real health benefits. Most functioning adults can’t imagine getting through their day without it. I didn’t always drink coffee, but I’ve come to appreciate it as I’ve gotten older. It’s one of the best parts of my morning.

For that very reason, I’d like to share a brief story about how I made this routine, yet enjoyable part of my day more awesome. Moreover, I did it by accident and I hope it inspires others to find new ways of making their morning coffee even better. Consider it a gift that I bought by complete accident.

It happened a while back around Halloween. It was around a time when everyone was stocking up on candy. Some friends of mine had more than done our part. We had a big bowl of candy in the kitchen that everyone picked at for days on end. I was one of them.

One morning, I grabbed a few peanut butter cups while brewing my coffee.  Typically, I drink my coffee black. I never use creamer or sugar. Sometimes, I will pour a little cocoa powder into the mix, usually around holidays or social gatherings. I wasn’t planning to do that on this particular day.

Then, something amazing happened.

After setting my cup of coffee down, I accidentally dropped a peanut butter cup right into it. At first, I felt stupid and clumsy. Then, I looked down at the frothy, chocolate-laden mixture forming in my cup. I soon realized that this might be the greatest accident I’ve ever had.

I took a sip of my coffee with the peanut butter cup now floating within it. A strange new convergence of tasty joy followed. It was like a revelation. It took two wonderful things and combined them into something that was even better. It made my morning and the rest of my day.

Again, this was a complete accident, but one from which something beautiful emerged. If you happen to love coffee and peanut butter cups, I highly recommend you give it a try. Just one or two cups will do. Give if a few minutes to melt and froth. You’ll be glad you did.

If you have another way of making morning coffee even better, I’d love to hear it. Just know that the sweet, potent combination of peanut butter cups and coffee will be hard to top.

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Lesson About Love I’ve Learned From Writing Romance

When writing, talking, or criticizing a certain topic, we often do so thinking we know enough about it to make it matter. It’s not until we actually make the effort that we realize just how inadequate our knowledge is. It can be distressing and disheartening on some levels, but it can also be revealing.

I’ve been writing romance stories since I was a teenager. I don’t deny that those first stories I wrote were awful. I’ve even gone back and deleted some of them, both from my memory and my computer. They were that bad. I made the effort because I believed I could tell a good, meaningful love story. It wasn’t until I started writing that I realized how much I had to learn.

I’ve learned quite a bit since then, but I don’t doubt for a second that I’ve a lot more to explore. The fact that I’m still single, unmarried, and not dating anyone at the moment is proof enough of that. However, after reading about and writing so many love stories, both as novels and as short stories, I’ve uncovered countless insights into love.

Writing about it, discussing it, and even observing it in people who have found it has taught me a lot. Much of those lessons have found their way into my writing over the years. In the interest of sharing those revelations, I’d like to offer a few of those insights for those still struggling to make sense of this emotion that drives so many people, both in real life and in the world of fiction.

Some may seem obvious. Others may seem corny. That’s to be expected. Love is one of those strange emotions that seems so simple on paper, yet so overwhelming in practice. That’s part of what makes it special. That’s also part of what makes it worth pursuing. Hopefully, these insights help with that.

Lesson #1: Love requires effort, but can become tedious if it turns into work.

Lesson #2: Love is often more opportunity than destiny. Fate may bring people together, but it’s through choice and effort that something comes of it.

Lesson #3: The line between lust and love is often blurred, but becomes more defined when those involved are honest with themselves and each other.

Lesson #4: It’s okay for love to be shallow on some levels, but greater depth is needed in order for it to blossom.

Lesson #5: Being in love means growing and evolving with a person. That means loving someone for who they are and who they’re trying to be.

Lesson #6: Being in love is only part of a functional relationship, but it’s a critical part that can make others work.

Lesson #7: Love isn’t always logical, but genuine love is coherent and consistent.

Lesson #8: You cannot control how, when, and where you fall in love, but you can control the situation around you.

Lesson #9: Being in love, like being in a relationship, is an ongoing feeling. Treating certain parts as endpoints only undermines both.

Lesson #10: In the same way love means different things to many people, the experience of love can be just as different. Even if others don’t understand it, that doesn’t mean the love is less sincere.

Lesson #11: Love is unpredictable, but there are often patterns that become noticeable when you’re honest with yourself and your partner.

Lesson #12: There’s no one right way to love someone, but there will always be many more wrong ways.

Lesson #13: Love build on lies is always unstable in the long run.

There are probably many more I could list or haven’t thought of. If you have some lessons in love that you’d like to share, please do so in the comments.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Seductive Humor Edition

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Over the years, as I’ve watched many friends and relatives get married, I often ask them what it was that attracted them to their spouse. Most of the time, they’ll reference a dramatic or emotional moment that brought them together. However, within that story, there’s often a point when they’ll say their love made them laugh.

It may seem minor in the grand scheme of things, but make no mistake. There is power in humor, including the sexy kind. It’s not just from laughter, which has a powerful impact of its own. The simple act of making someone smile goes a long way towards evoking deeper emotions.

In that sense, humor is like a catalyst. When someone makes you laugh, you want to be around them more. The more you’re around them, the deeper the connection goes. When that connection becomes romantic, then humor gains an even greater influence. Suddenly, the act of smiling has greater meaning. It goes beyond the humor or the laughter. It can be downright intimate.

Knowing how to make your lover laugh shows that you know how to make them happy. It’s a simple, basic act, but one that sets the stage for many others. I believe that I’ll know I’ve met someone special if they make me laugh. I hope my future wife will feel the same way. In the meantime, here are some Sexy Sunday Thoughts to help deepen your appreciation of seductive humor. Enjoy!


“Exploring anal sex often requires that you be more horny than curious.”


“A quickie is basically a pop quiz for your genitals.”


“Being in a loveless marriage is like being trapped at a buffet that only serves expired cat food.”


“It’s safe to assume that someone with a good poker face knows how to fake an orgasm.”


“A divorce settlement is basically a bar tab for your heart.”


“Religion stigmatizes sex because it knows that orgasms are more powerful than prayers.”


“Camera angles are the only thing that keeps porn from being poorly-acted romance movies.”


There are all sorts of big, elaborate gestures we can make to someone we love. There’s a time and a place for those kinds of gestures. Other times, something as simple as making them laugh helps get the point across. It’s from these simple things that many powerful connections are forged. The laughter is just a nice bonus.

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A Brief Message To My Future Wife

Every now and then, I find myself wondering what I’ll say to the love of my life when I meet her. I also wonder what I’d say to my future self if I could. I think everyone contemplates what they’d tell themselves at a certain point in their lives, past and future. Most of the time, it’s just a daydream or a thought experiment. As you get older, though, every sentiment feels more urgent.

I still believe the love of my life is out there. I doubt I’ve met her yet. I hope I meet her soon and not just because I’m getting older. There are so many things I want to say to her. Chances are, if you love someone with all your heart, you can never convey the totality of your feelings. Sometimes, you need both foresight and hindsight to keep things in perspective.

With that in mind, I’d like to share this as a simple message to my future wife, whoever and wherever she may be. I may not be able to put this into words at any point in our lives, but as someone who is still searching for that special someone, know that this sentiment is honest and true.

There will be days when I’m a pain to be around.

There will be days when I am distant and cold.

There will be days when I just don’t want to talk to anyone.

There will be days when I’m not in a romantic mood.

There will be days when I’m stressed out, overwhelmed, and in a bad mood.

There will be days when I focus only on where I’ve gone wrong and where I’ve failed.

There will be days when I blame others for things I’m responsible for.

It’s on these days, however, when your love means the most to me. I may not say it at the time, but know that it’s true. Even when I’m at my worst, I still love you. Moreover, I still need your love.

With time, I get through these days. They quickly become distant memories and I make an effort to ensure the good days outnumber the bad. Know that it’s you who helps make those good says worth waking up for, but it’s easy to acknowledge that when all is well. It’s much harder to convey when things are going wrong.

It’s easy to cherish love when all is well, but you can only know the strength of that love when things are at their worst. I believe our love is that strong. Never doubt that for a second, no matter how many bad days we face.

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My Workout Playlist (For Those Still Committed To Get In Shape This Year)

The first few days of 2020 have gone by quickly. We’ve still got plenty more to go and for those still serious about their New Years Resolution, I applaud and encourage you. Anyone who has given up on theirs by now was probably not serious about them in the first place.

Since one of the most common resolutions is to get in shape, I thought I’d touch on that again. A few days ago, I wrote about how certain people at the gym I go to didn’t seem to be taking that effort very seriously. I tried to be fair and offer advice for those who genuinely want to improve their health, fitness, and overall well-being. In hindsight, I think I might have been a bit harsh.

To make up for it, I thought I’d share one aspect of working out that I genuinely enjoy. It involves listening to music during a workout. I know that’s not a novel concept. Chances are that when you go to a gym, most of the people working out will have headphones on. I know because I’m one of them. In fact, listening to music while working out is something that makes my workout genuinely enjoyable.

If you want to do something that’ll make exercise feel less tedious, a good playlist is a great way to achieve that. What constitutes a “good playlist” varies from person to person. Not everyone has the same tastes. I know people who can work out listening to classical, jazz, country, and rap music. There’s nothing wrong with any genre. As long as it helps get you in the right mindset, then it can only help.

I have a lot of music on my phone, but I have a special playlist that I call my “Workout Mix” that I listen to whenever I’m at the gym. Whether I’m lifting weights or running on a treadmill, I just put the list on shuffle and have at it. Before long, I’m rocking out and working out. It’s win-win.

If you intend to get into shape in 2020, I highly recommend putting together a workout mix. If it helps, I’ll share mine. Please note that mine is tailored to my tastes. Yours are likely different. Pick the music that works best for you. This just happens to work best for me.

Metallica – Enter Sandman

Metallica – Hardwired To Self-Destruct

Quiet Riot – Come On Feel The Noise

DMX – X Goin’ Give It To Ya

Lady Gaga – Applause

Flo Rida – Right Round

AC/DC – Thunderstruck

Motley Crue – Kickstart My Heart

Collective Soul – Shine

Collective Soul – December

Soundgarden – Spoonman

Robin Schultz – Sugar

Rick James – Superfreak

Nirvana – Smells Like Teen Spirit

Nelly – Hot In Here

James Labrie – Pretender

Guns N’ Roses – Welcome To The Jungle

Guns N’ Roses – Sweet Child Of Mine

Eve 6 – Inside Out

Drowning Pool – Step Up

The Beastie Boys – Fight For Your Right (To Party)

Bruno Mars – Uptown Funk

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Deep Manly Voice Edition

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Anyone who has ever heard a Barry White song knows there’s inherent sex appeal in a deep, manly voice. Even if you’re a straight man, you can’t deny the impact. Hearing that voice, even in a non-intimate setting, just triggers all sorts of sensual feelings. In terms of sex appeal, it’s not the most obvious trait. However, when employed correctly, it can be very effective.

I’ve seen men in the real world prove that time and again. When I was in college, my roommate had this friend who had an unusually deep voice. It wasn’t on the same level of Barry White, but it definitely stood out. He knew that and the women he attracted knew that too. I know because he was rarely without a girlfriend or interested women.

One time, at a birthday party, he sang happy birthday to this girl. After just a few verses, I could tell she wanted to jump his bone. Had we not been in a crowded room, she probably would’ve been half-naked before he finished the song. Some women are good at hiding when they’re aroused. This woman wasn’t, but I don’t think she minded.

A deep, manly voice will evoke that kind of primal response. That’s not to say men without deep voices can’t be sexy, but having a deep voice will give you an advantage. When employed well, it can be a catalyst for all sorts of sexy moments. With that in mind, I hope you all read these Sexy Sunday Thoughts in the deepest, manliest voice you can imagine. Enjoy!


“Given the rigors of childbirth, it’s entirely fair that women can have multiple orgasms more easily than men.”


“In terms of overall rewards, finding your lover’s G-spot is not that different from finding true love.”


“What you lick during passionate lovemaking doesn’t matter as much as your eagerness to lick it.”


“There has never been a mundane way of finding out that you have a choking fetish.”


“It’s very likely that our love of oral sex influenced the importance of dental hygiene.”


“It takes a little luck to find love, but it takes skill and talent to make it sexy.”


“No matter how beautiful a woman is, having a better gag reflex will give them an advantage.”


Did you read all those in a deep, manly voice? Did it make a difference? Even if it didn’t, I hope it still got the point across. There are many things you can say to a prospective lover to get their interest, but how you say it matters. Saying it in a deep, manly voice might not add substance to the message, but it’ll give it an uncanny sex appeal.

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Saturdays, Sexy Short Stories, And Baby Yoda

It’s Saturday. I know that’s usually when I post one of my sexy short stories, but as I noted a few days ago, I’m cutting back on updates of that nature. That’s not to say I’ve told my last sexy short story. I still intend to write them, but I’ll do so more sparingly.

That could change if demand changes. I’ve noticed that traffic for my sexy short stories has remained somewhat stagnant in recent months. Is that because I’m not writing good enough stories? Is there a certain niche that I should focus on? I don’t get a lot of feedback so I’m not sure how to proceed. As such, I’ll be proceeding more cautiously.

In the meantime, in lieu of a sexy short story, here’s a picture of Baby Yoda being adorable.

You’re welcome.

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