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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Shared Blanket Edition

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It’s the middle of winter. It’s cold outside and it’s going to stay cold for at least two more months, no matter what some groundhog in Pennsylvania says. I’m not a big fan of winter. I know staying warm isn’t always easy. In college, I lived in dorms without effective heating. I know that challenge well.

That said, cold weather can still create some sexy opportunities. One of the simplest and most underrated is sharing a blanket with your lover. It’s a simple scenario. It’s freezing cold outside. The heater in your place is only doing so much, if you have it. Rather than just shiver, you find a big blanket, curl up next to your lover, and let natural body heat and sexy forces do the rest.

I know from experience that this is a great way to stay warm on cold nights. When I was dating my ex-girlfriend, sharing a big blanket was a fun way of making things feel intimate. It gave us yet another reason to cuddle and caress. In any healthy relationship, you can never have too many of those.

Winter might not make for the most romantic circumstances. It’s hard to make dressing in layers overly sexy. At the same time, there are opportunities to get frisky with your lover and curling up under a blanket is one of them. I hope these Sexy Sunday Thoughts will inspire couples out there to take advantage of those opportunities, if only to make winter more bearable. Enjoy!


“Praying is one of the least effective contraceptives out there and yet it’s still one of the most commonly used.”


“Crime doesn’t pay in the long run, but it can get you laid in the short run and that’s the next best thing.”


“The extent of someone’s sexual repression is directly proportional to how reluctant they are to describe their or someone else’s genitals.”


“Take a moment to appreciate that someone had to test the sex toys that never made it to stores.”


“To some extent, falling in love is being attracted to someone who affects your genitals in a particular way.”


“Shame keeps people from having sex in public, but pride convinces some they can get away with it.”


“Isn’t it hypocritical for people to protest decadence when a sizable chunk of the human population exists because of it?”


I’ll say it again. Cold weather sucks. I’d much rather be in a tropical setting wearing a swimsuit and getting a tan. However, being romantic sometimes means being resourceful with your circumstances. When you have a lover and a nice blanket to share, then you don’t need much else to stay warm.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Seductive Humor Edition

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Over the years, as I’ve watched many friends and relatives get married, I often ask them what it was that attracted them to their spouse. Most of the time, they’ll reference a dramatic or emotional moment that brought them together. However, within that story, there’s often a point when they’ll say their love made them laugh.

It may seem minor in the grand scheme of things, but make no mistake. There is power in humor, including the sexy kind. It’s not just from laughter, which has a powerful impact of its own. The simple act of making someone smile goes a long way towards evoking deeper emotions.

In that sense, humor is like a catalyst. When someone makes you laugh, you want to be around them more. The more you’re around them, the deeper the connection goes. When that connection becomes romantic, then humor gains an even greater influence. Suddenly, the act of smiling has greater meaning. It goes beyond the humor or the laughter. It can be downright intimate.

Knowing how to make your lover laugh shows that you know how to make them happy. It’s a simple, basic act, but one that sets the stage for many others. I believe that I’ll know I’ve met someone special if they make me laugh. I hope my future wife will feel the same way. In the meantime, here are some Sexy Sunday Thoughts to help deepen your appreciation of seductive humor. Enjoy!


“Exploring anal sex often requires that you be more horny than curious.”


“A quickie is basically a pop quiz for your genitals.”


“Being in a loveless marriage is like being trapped at a buffet that only serves expired cat food.”


“It’s safe to assume that someone with a good poker face knows how to fake an orgasm.”


“A divorce settlement is basically a bar tab for your heart.”


“Religion stigmatizes sex because it knows that orgasms are more powerful than prayers.”


“Camera angles are the only thing that keeps porn from being poorly-acted romance movies.”


There are all sorts of big, elaborate gestures we can make to someone we love. There’s a time and a place for those kinds of gestures. Other times, something as simple as making them laugh helps get the point across. It’s from these simple things that many powerful connections are forged. The laughter is just a nice bonus.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Deep Manly Voice Edition

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Anyone who has ever heard a Barry White song knows there’s inherent sex appeal in a deep, manly voice. Even if you’re a straight man, you can’t deny the impact. Hearing that voice, even in a non-intimate setting, just triggers all sorts of sensual feelings. In terms of sex appeal, it’s not the most obvious trait. However, when employed correctly, it can be very effective.

I’ve seen men in the real world prove that time and again. When I was in college, my roommate had this friend who had an unusually deep voice. It wasn’t on the same level of Barry White, but it definitely stood out. He knew that and the women he attracted knew that too. I know because he was rarely without a girlfriend or interested women.

One time, at a birthday party, he sang happy birthday to this girl. After just a few verses, I could tell she wanted to jump his bone. Had we not been in a crowded room, she probably would’ve been half-naked before he finished the song. Some women are good at hiding when they’re aroused. This woman wasn’t, but I don’t think she minded.

A deep, manly voice will evoke that kind of primal response. That’s not to say men without deep voices can’t be sexy, but having a deep voice will give you an advantage. When employed well, it can be a catalyst for all sorts of sexy moments. With that in mind, I hope you all read these Sexy Sunday Thoughts in the deepest, manliest voice you can imagine. Enjoy!


“Given the rigors of childbirth, it’s entirely fair that women can have multiple orgasms more easily than men.”


“In terms of overall rewards, finding your lover’s G-spot is not that different from finding true love.”


“What you lick during passionate lovemaking doesn’t matter as much as your eagerness to lick it.”


“There has never been a mundane way of finding out that you have a choking fetish.”


“It’s very likely that our love of oral sex influenced the importance of dental hygiene.”


“It takes a little luck to find love, but it takes skill and talent to make it sexy.”


“No matter how beautiful a woman is, having a better gag reflex will give them an advantage.”


Did you read all those in a deep, manly voice? Did it make a difference? Even if it didn’t, I hope it still got the point across. There are many things you can say to a prospective lover to get their interest, but how you say it matters. Saying it in a deep, manly voice might not add substance to the message, but it’ll give it an uncanny sex appeal.

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Happy New Year (And Decade)!

To anyone and everyone, Happy New Year! We’re finally done with 2019. Now, 2020 is upon us. It’s a new year, as well as a new decade. That makes it the perfect opportunity to take more than a small step forward. Instead, try and take a giant leap. Look at the future that awaits us and find a way to make it more awesome. That’s how you start off any year or decade on a high note.

There will be challenges.

There will be changes.

There will be triumphs.

There will be failures.

That’s part of every year, decade, and century. It’s just a matter of how you learn and build from them. I’m excited to see where this year will take me and those around me. To everyone else, I wish you the utmost best.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: New Years 2019 Edition

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It’s almost over. It went by quickly and chaotically, but 2019 is almost complete. I know every year seems to go by fast in hindsight, but I feel like 2019 was unique and I’m not just referring to the steady onslaught of outrageous news stories. We have those every year. For me, personally, this year was quite a ride.

I had quite a few major developments, some I can’t share at the moment because they’re still unfolding. The past few years have brought many such developments for my life, some less pleasant than others. A few were downright painful, but I made it through and came out stronger.

Overall, I feel like 2019 was an improvement. I didn’t meet the love of my life, but I did see a few close relatives find theirs. I’ve had close friends welcome new children into the world. I also made some personal strides that I’m especially proud of. I hope to make plenty more, especially with respect to my writing.

If 2019 had one shortcoming, it was how little my efforts to become a successful writer have progressed. It’s been a long time since I had a novel published and I’ve yet to find another publisher. I’ve tried to raise my profile through my sexy short stories, but I feel like that impact has been limited and I believe I could’ve done more.

In the end, I can still say that 2019 was a success for me. I’m ready for it to be over and I’m ready to make the most of 2020. As such, I’m eager to celebrate New Years alongside everyone else. It’s the last of the holiday festivities and intend to make the most of it. I hope these Sexy Sunday Thoughts get everyone in the New Years spirit as well. Enjoy!


“To some extent, seeking the love of your life requires that you listen to your genitals.”


“You’ll never be as conflicted as a porn addict with a parent who’s also a famous porn star.”


“The invention of the dildo probably took less imagination than any invention in history.”


“To some extent, marriage is a legally binding construct for shame-free orgasms.”


“Chances are you’ve shaken the hand of someone who has used that hand on someone else’s genitals.”


“Pick-up lines basically amount to guessing the combination to unlocking someone’s panties.”


“You know you’re in love when you willingly share your WiFi passwords.”


Regardless of whether you had a good year or not, New Years is worth celebrating. It’s the end of one thing and the beginning of another. Time keeps moving forward. Life goes on. Now is a time to celebrate how far we’ve come and appreciate what lays before us. From me to you, I wish everyone a safe and Happy New Year!

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Happy New Year 2019!

To everyone out there, their families, and their lovers, I wish you a happy and sexy New Year. I’m looking forward to making 2019 the most awesome year it can be.

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Six New Years Resolutions For 2019 (That Will Help Everybody)

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It’s that time of year again. By that, I mean it’s the time when people either bemoan how few of their New Years resolutions they accomplished this past year and try to convince themselves they’ll do better next year. I’m not knocking the concept. I’m as guilty of that as the next person who dares to set goals at the end of every year.

I like to think I’ve accomplished a thing or two, but 2018 was rough for me. It’s not just that I was unable to find a new publisher for my outstanding manuscripts. When 2018 began, “Passion Relapse” and “Rescued Hearts” were my only published novels. I’d hoped to add at least one, but that didn’t pan out. I tried to make up for it by writing over two dozen sexy short stories, but I’m still determined to further publishing efforts.

Beyond my publishing endeavors, though, I underwent some pretty major upheavals. A very close family member of mine passed away, which was incredibly difficult. There were a few other major life events that I’d prefer not to share just yet. While 2018 had plenty of high points, the low points were especially painful.

Be that as it may, I’m more ready than most to close the book on 2018 and work on making 2019 much better. While I have my share of resolutions that I’d like to achieve, I would also like to contemplate resolutions that society, as a whole, can strive to achieve in 2019.

Let’s face it, we had some pretty bad moments in 2018. There’s a lot of room for improvement in 2019. I’m not saying humanity can fix all its problems in one year, but striving to do better is always worth doing. What follows are six New Years resolutions for humanity in 2019. Some are more ambitious than others, but I think these are minor steps we can take to making 2019 the best year it can be.


Resolution #1: Learn To Channel Selective Outrage For More Productive Purposes

This could’ve easily been a resolution for 2018, as well. It’ll likely be a resolution for years to come because, as I’ve noted before, getting exceedingly outraged over trivial matters has become a pastime, of sorts, for people these days. The internet and social media is just the platform. People are the ones who stoke the fires.

Whether it’s controversy over Jennifer Lawrence’s dress or getting all up in arms about old jokes from famous comedians, people seem to get outraged over exceedingly petty things. Now, I’m not saying that people shouldn’t get riled up, but there are some things that just aren’t worth the emotional energy.

Who hosts the Oscars or old tweets from a decade ago do not warrant this kind of attention in the marketplace of ideas. Scandals about big companies illegally harvesting user data or children being forcibly separated from their parents are more deserving of such outrage. There are things worth getting upset about and celebrity attire isn’t one of them.

For 2019, I think we’ll do everyone a favor by channeling our outrage into something that actually warrants it. It can’t just be about what celebrities do or whether certain video game characters are too sexy. There’s plenty of room to channel our outrage into something more productive.


Resolution #2: Stop Taking Certain Celebrities Seriously

This is closely tied to the first resolution, but I thought it deserved a resolution of its own. Let’s face it. Our culture is obsessed with celebrities. We have been since long before the rise of mass media. It’s not going to stop in 2019, but that doesn’t mean we can’t be more diligent with how we obsess over celebrities.

Specifically, we can go out of our way to ignore certain individuals whose rhetoric is barely discernible from typical trolls. I’m talking about the Lena Dunhams and Ted Nugents of the world. These are not serious people with serious ideas. They’re celebrities who pretend to know what they’re talking about and not very well.

There are plenty of respectable celebrities worth following and admiring. While the assholes may make the news, there are celebrities out there who do genuinely good things and they deserve true admiration. We can do both them and the world a favor by not giving so much attention to those who don’t deserve it.

When in doubt, just follow someone like Ryan Reynolds.


Resolution #3: Focus On Future Possibilities Rather Than Past Transgressions

There are a lot of factors that fuel outrage, controversy, and what not. One that often comes up involves past transgressions and for good reason. Historically, people have been committing horrific atrocities on one another due to differences in race, religion, sexual orientation, and gender. These actions are objectively awful. Nobody can deny that.

That said, focusing on them and bemoaning them constantly does nothing to honor the victims or reduce the potential for similar atrocities. We can’t change the past. We can only learn from it. The crimes, be they the horrific treatment of a particular race or the actions of a particular individual, cannot be undone. We can prosecute them and, if possible, we should.

However, there comes a point where focusing so much on past crimes becomes less about learning from them and more about whining. I see it a lot in debates surrounding race and gender. One race or gender bemoans how horrible they had been treated in the past and use that to justify their sentiments in the present. That’s not a productive use of history.

That’s because whining is never productive. It’s true. Things in the past weren’t very pleasant for a lot of people, especially if they were a minority. There’s no way to change that. Many of the victims and perpetrators are long dead and can never be held accountable. While that clashes with our innate sense of injustice, it’s not something we can change.

That’s why it’s important to focus on the future rather than whining about the past. We can’t change the past, but we can shape the future. We can do things that’ll make the world better for everybody, regardless of their minority status. Whining, however, is not one of those things.


Resolution #4: Celebrate Good More Than Emphasizing Bad

You don’t have to look far to see some pretty awful things happening in the world. Those awful things are usually the first thing to make the news. The whole “if it bleeds, it leads” mantra has a lot of distressing truth to it.

Even though 2018 had plenty of horrific news, there were genuine bright spots. Did you know that charitable giving reached record highs this past year? Did you know crime rates are tending downward in almost every major city? Did you know science developed a drought-resistant rice that could potentially feed millions? Did you know that Jean Grey finally came back from the dead in the X-men comics after a 15-year absence?

That last one was for me, as a life-long X-men fan. However, the point is still valid. There was a lot of good news that happened in 2018, in terms of society and civilization. Even in genuinely awful stories, you can find bits of hope here and there. You don’t even have to look too hard. The news is there, if you’re willing to find it.

That’s a resolution I think is worth pursuing, even if horrific news still gets our attention. The good will never shock us as much, but it will evoke all the right emotions. I strongly believe in having faith in humanity. I’ve explained why on a few occasions. I think we would do ourselves and our futures a favor by celebrating that good rather than agonizing over the bad.


Resolution #5: Laugh At Absurdities Instead Of Making Them Controversies

Beyond the good news and the bad news, 2018 had plenty of weird news as well. Granted, a lot of them came from Florida, but the principle is the same. Regardless of whether you think people are inherently good or bad, most can agree they do weird things. You can either lament for the future of our species or just laugh at it.

As it turns out, laughing is a lot healthier. It helps make difficult or strange situations easier to process. Let’s face it, we’re always going to have plenty of those, even if you don’t live in Florida. The best thing we can do is laugh, even if it’s not that funny. It’s something we should do plenty of in 2019 because 2018 showed a marked decline in peoples’ sense of humor.

There were controversies about jokes in the past and jokes that were in poor taste. Granted, not all of these jokes were funny, but making them into these big controversies about race, gender, and what not didn’t help. All it did was fuel contrived outrage over issues that didn’t need any extra fodder.

People are going to tell bad jokes. We can’t be as funny or as smart as George Carlin or Richard Pryor. People are going to get offended too, but that can’t be the sole basis for a controversy. Being offended is not a serious injury and offending someone is not a crime. If faced with the option of laughing it off or making a big deal out of something comes up in 2019, let’s just err on the side of laughter.


Resolution #6: Focus On What We Can Control Instead Of Agonizing Over What We Can’t Control

This is something that become a major talking point in 2018 and, at times, for the right reason. There was a lot of whining, especially in the world of outrage culture and politics. However, there was a bit more emphasis on what to actually do about it. Specifically, there was a huge push to urge people to vote in the mid-term elections. That effort, as frustrating as it was at times, paid off.

Voter turnout in the 2018 Midterm Elections was the highest it had been since the mid-1960s. The results paid off. People wanted change, there was a process for implementing that change, and they did it. That’s how we progress in a functioning society. It’s not always as extensive as we prefer, but it’s still progress.

This was in stark contrast to those who whine constantly about what one particular gender or race has done in the past. Like I said in the previous resolution, we can’t change the past. Whining about it won’t magically conjure a time machine or rewrite history. It’ll just incur pity, which is even less productive.

There are things we can do to help people. Do you want to help women who have been sexually abused? Contribute to legal funds that help them prosecute their abusers. Do you want to help save the environment? Consider donating to the World Wildlife Fund or invest in green energy. Do you want to help victims of atrocities? Consider donating or volunteering for the Red Cross or Amnesty International.

These actions constitute meaningful change in a world that still needs it. Your money and your time are tangible assets that can do real help. Whining doesn’t help and neither does contrived outrage. We live in a complicated world where a lot of things are out of our control. By focusing on what we can control, we can make 2019 the best year it can possibly be and I’m ready to do my part.

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