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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Going To The Gym Edition

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Most people don’t like going to the gym. For the first half of my life, I certainly didn’t like it. Gym was my least favorite class in school and I actively avoided them for much of my 20s. Then, I started to become more health conscious. I saw how I looked and I wasn’t satisfied with it. I also saw what was happening with my health and I didn’t like it. Eventually, my attitudes towards gyms changed.

I’ve documented my journey from being grossly out of shape to being a regular fixture at my local gym. I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t just enjoy going to the gym. I feel weird when I don’t. It’s a habit and one that has had a positive impact on my health, my physical appearance, and my confidence. It’s not unreasonable to say that I’m a sexier man today than I was in my 20s because of my efforts at the gym.

Love it or hate it, working out at the gym is where both improved health and greater sexiness are forged. It’s not easy and it doesn’t happen overnight either. It takes time, effort, commitment, and even some pain along the way. The end results are still worth it. I’ve seen people at the gym go from pudgy to ripped over the course of several months. It’s an amazing process and a sexy one, at that.

Granted, you don’t always feel attractive at the gym. You’re sweaty, you’re sticky, and you’re probably going to smell. However, you’re also demonstrating to yourself and others that you’re willing to put in the work. You’re willing to fight, struggle, and toil in the name of greater health and sex appeal. That’s something that anyone can find attractive.

Many of the thoughts that end up in my Sexy Sunday Thoughts often occur while I’m at the gym. With my heart pumping, my blood flowing, and my mind focus, it’s just too fitting. That makes this edition of my Sexy Sunday Thoughts almost as rewarding as a good workout. Enjoy!


“An overly fancy dinner is just a more expensive form of foreplay.”


“If practice makes perfect, then sluts are just a kinky brand of perfectionists.”


“Stupidity will persist for as long as it plays a role in significant numbers of pregnancies.”


“A broken heart often coincides with lonely genitals.”


“If an orgy is a democracy, then a gangbang is a reverse dictatorship.”


“Sleeping with your ex is like drinking and driving in a car you’ve already crashed before.”


“Logistically speaking, a skilled liar and a gullible idiot are among the most compatible lovers.”


I hope this inspires those who already go to the gym to push themselves a little harder on their next trip. For those who don’t go, I encourage you to give it a try. You might not like it at first. You might find it difficult and strenuous. Trust me, it’s worth doing. It gets easier over time and when you see the results in the mirror, you’ll feel both healthier and sexier.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Pumpkin Spice Edition 2019

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It’s that time of year again. The days are getting shorter, the weather is getting colder, and the leaves are changing into a beautiful tapestry of colors. These are the traditional signs of fall and most people don’t have a problem with them. Some even celebrate them. In recent years, though, another element has become associated with this time of year, much to the chagrin of certain crowds.

I’m talking, of course, about pumpkin spice. Now, I’m not among those who whine about the presence and prevalence of all things pumpkin spice. There’s an elaborate narrative surrounding that and it’s not worth getting into. Personally, I happen to like pumpkin spice. I usually treat myself with a nice pumpkin spice latte this time of year when I feel I earned it.

It’s not the greatest latte in the world, but it still tastes great. It has a unique flavor that fits perfectly with the season. This is the time of year when pumpkins are everywhere, be they Halloween decorations or core ingredients of pies. Pumpkin spice is just another treat to celebrate this time of year.

Think what you will about it. Use it as an excuse to bash millennials and snooty coffee addicts all you want. It still tastes great and it still helps usher in a new season. It’s my hope that this round of my Sexy Sunday Thoughts inspires people to set aside the complaining about pumpkin spice and just enjoy its uniquely seasonal taste.


“To some extent, parents protecting the chastity of their daughters amounts to micromanaging their orgasms.”


“Divorce is essentially a lawsuit built around insufficient, stolen, or unsanctioned orgasms.”


“Falling in love can make for epic romance, but stumbling into it can make for heartfelt comedy.”


“Is it hypocritical that we’re so serious about caring for our genitals, but base some of our crudest humor around them?”


“Technically speaking, sexual fluids are liquid joy.”


“Getting lectured on sex by a celibate priest is like getting lessons in cyber security from the Amish.”


“The sounds we make during sex are the only true universal language.”


I don’t expect these sexy musings to convince people that pumpkin spice is inherently awesome. At the end of the day, it’s simply a special flavoring that happens to correlate perfectly with this time of year. It certainly helps that it’s delicious and it’s always easier to feel sexy when you’ve enjoyed a delicious treat.

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John Oliver, Sex Dolls, And The (Unwarranted) Shaming Of Lonely Men

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There’s a general rule in comedy with respect to insults. If you’re going to demean, denigrate, or make fun of a particular person or group, you don’t want to punch down. Granted, you can do it. You can even get a few laughs out of it if you do it well and are exceptionally funny. However, in the grand scheme of things, you’re still an asshole.

It’s the main reason why comedians, be they stand-up comics or talk show hosts, generally direct their insults at the rich, powerful, and privileged. There’s a general understanding that if you’re doing well in this chaotic game of life, either through luck or talent, you can afford to take a few insults. At the end of the day, you can still go home and cry into a pile of money, fame, and affluence.

When you insult a group that has none of those things in any abundance, it’s usually not something people respect, even if they laugh. It’s why even great comedians like George Carlin had to be very careful and exceptionally skilled when he joked about rape.

We miss you, George. We miss you SO much.

Unfortunately, not everyone can be as funny or talented as George Carlin. Sometimes, insult comedy hits an undeserving target. It tends to reveal something about the comedian delivering the insult and where society is, in terms of sympathies. It’s often subtle, but the subtext is there and it has larger implications.

That brings me to John Oliver, the nerdy smart-ass British comedian who owes 95 percent of his fame to John Stewart. His show, “Last Week Tonight,” has won multiple Emmy awards and has garnered substantial praise for its colorful approach to tackling major issues, from the abortion debate to annoying robocalls to the flaws in standardized testing.

While I don’t agree with Mr. Oliver’s politics all the time or his approach to tackling certain issues, I consider myself a fan of his show. Compared to other satirical comedy shows, he tends to strike just the right balance between quality comedy and tackling serious issues.

However, he recently took a comedic jab that deviated from his usual style and not in a good way. It occurred during his episode that focused on China’s controversial One Child Policy. It’s an issue that has been subject to plenty of controversy for years and I think Mr. Oliver was right to talk about it.

One of the major consequences of this policy, which Mr. Oliver rightly pointed out, was how it led to a massive gender population imbalance. Due to a historic preference for sons, there are millions more men than women in China. The disparity is so great that it has caused major social upheavals.

While discussing some of those upheavals, the issue of sex dolls came up. In a country where there are so many lonely men, it makes sense that they would seek some form of outlet and it helps that the market of sex dolls is growing. This is where Mr. Oliver did a little punching down and, unlike his jabs at New Zealand, this didn’t have the same impact. See for yourself in this clip.

Take a moment to consider what he’s joking about here. There are millions of men in China who, through no fault of their own, are likely doomed to a life of loneliness. It’s not because they’re bad men. They’re not creepy, cruel, or misogynistic. They’re just at the mercy of math and demographics. There simply aren’t enough women in their country.

For these men, the old saying that there’s plenty of fish in the sea is an outright lie. Their options are limited and Mr. Oliver is making light of that. He essentially claims that men who use sex dolls are somehow even more pathetic and destined for more loneliness. He makes that claim as someone who is married, has a child, and doesn’t have to deal with those prospects.

It’s not just bad comedy. It’s hypocritical. Earlier in that same clip, he showed sympathy and understanding to a Chinese woman who was forced to have an abortion against her will. He’s shown similar sympathy to people in other situations, from women dealing with restrictive abortion laws to prisoners who had been screwed over by an unfair justice system.

Why would he show no sympathy for these lonely men?

Moreover, why would he make a joke about it?

To some extent, it’s not all on him. There is an egregious double standard when it comes to men who use sex toys. A woman can walk into a sex shop, buy a vibrator, and talk about using it without too much stigma. Sure, there will be a few repressive, sex-negative religious zealots who will complain about anything that gives anyone unsanctioned pleasure, but most people don’t take them seriously.

For men, however, there’s a taboo surrounding the use of sex toys in any capacity. Some of that comes from men more than women. There’s this not-so-subtle assumption that a man who needs a sex toy is somehow less manly. Any man who has to resort to one must be somehow deficient. It can’t just be that he’s lonely or wants to use new tools to please his lover. That would make too much sense.

For the men in China, and other areas where there’s a huge gender disparity, the situation is even worse. These are men who are facing both loneliness and sexual frustration. There’s more than a little evidence that this is not healthy for them on any level. That’s not to say that sex dolls or sex toys will help fill that void, but it will give them an outlet, just as a vibrator gives a lonely woman an outlet.

Unlike a lonely woman, though, these men can’t expect much sympathy. As Mr. Oliver demonstrates, they can expect plenty of shame and stigma. It doesn’t matter that they can’t do anything about their situation. They’re victims of circumstance, demographics, and basic math. Adding stigma and taboo to the mix is akin to kicking them in the balls on the worst day of their lives.

I won’t say that Mr. Oliver should apologize for his remark. He’s a comedian. He’s a citizen in a free country. He can say what he wants. However, the fact that he can joke about lonely men and still get a laugh says a lot about the current attitudes towards lonely men, in general.

We know they’re suffering. We know there’s not much they can do about it, especially in places like China. While we’ll give plenty of sympathy to the lonely women who resort to using sex toys, we’ll stick to shaming and stigmatizing the men who dare to do the same. Then, we’ll pretend to be surprised when they get angry and resentful.

Is that fair? No, it isn’t.

Is that funny? No, I argue that it’s not, especially with the way Mr. Oliver went about it.

He’s no George Carlin. He’s no John Stewart, either. In this particular case, he’s just an asshole.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: New York Comic Con 2019 Edition

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The last day of the New York Comic Con is a day of extended afterglow for life-long comic book fans. We’ve read the big headlines. We’ve taken in the spectacle. We’ve immersed ourselves in this wondrous celebration of comics, pop culture, and fandom. Our minds and bodies can only process so much joy. We need some time to soak it all in.

I hope that provides some appropriate context for my feelings at the moment. Having returned from another successful New York Comic Con, I can only do so much to put my sentiments into words. Every year I go, I worry that it won’t exceed the experience that I enjoyed in previous years. Every year, it still finds a way to get better.

This year gave me a fresh batch of treasured memories. I met some amazing people. I attended some awesome panels. I also got to spend some time in New York City, which is a treat in and of itself. There was so much to see and experience, but only a finite time to take it all in. Based on my experience, I like to think I got everything I could out of it.

Once again, I thank and celebrate the New York Comic Con for affirming my love of comics, superheroes, and the fans who help make it special. I also thank the amazing cos-players who give so much character and charisma to the event. You are all more than deserving of recognition for an edition of my Sexy Sunday Thoughts, and then some. Enjoy!


“Every popular sex act started as an act of deviance.”


“Even the most passionate act of lovemaking began with a dirty thought.”


“Orgasms are nature’s all-purpose anti-depressant.”


“Anyone who can fix a car, computer, or toilet is going to have some level of sex appeal to someone with little patience.”


“Masturbation isn’t something you learn as much as it is something you figure out.”


“A good night’s sleep is both a side-effect and a bonus of post-coital afterglow.”


“Technically, an orgy is the simplest manifestation of democracy if you count orgasms as votes.”


Another New York Comic Con is in the books. Between the upcoming slate of superhero movies and new upheavals in the comics, there’s plenty to look forward to. Expect me to appreciate, celebrate, and write about it all in the coming months. Thanks again, New York Comic Con! You make my year feel special.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Elaborate Seduction Edition

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Being a romantic, I’m a sucker for exceedingly elaborate acts of seduction. Whether it’s on Valentine’s Day, an anniversary, or even a first date, I think the power of romance is on full display when ambitious people go all out. It’s a beautiful thing, even when it’s overdone. As long as someone’s heart is in the right place romantically, seduction can be quite a spectacle.

You don’t have to look too hard to find stories that are romantic, extreme, or just plain hilarious. I once worked with a guy who turned his entire bathroom into something that looked like a high roller suite in Las Vegas. I also knew a girl who set up this elaborate sound system in her husband’s bedroom to play sounds of the beach in the middle of winter. They weren’t crazy stunts, but they conveyed the same sentiment.

Putting time, energy, and resources into intimacy doesn’t just show how much you care about someone. It shows how much you’re willing to invest in love. It tells your lover, and the world as a whole, that you have a large capacity for love. If you have the means and the opportunity, you’ll demonstrate it to the utmost. To lovers and romantics alike, it’s a powerful message.

I certainly have my own ideas for how elaborate I’d get if I had a lover to seduce. I won’t share them here or hint at what it might involve. That’s for me and my future lover to know, whoever they may be. Until that time comes, here are some Sexy Sunday Thoughts to celebrate those who go the extra mile when it comes to seduction.


“The sexiness of underwear is directly linked to how easy it is to take off.”


“Does it really count as seduction if the person you’re trying to seduce is already horny?”


“When you think about it, babies are living orgasms.”


“The extent of someone’s love is directly proportional to how much of their lover’s body their lips have touched.”


“If there really is that special someone for everyone, then bisexuals are really hedging their bets.”


“Depending on your attitudes towards nudity, strip poker is the only form of gambling that has no losers.”


“Having sex with a pregnant woman is the only act of redundancy that leads to orgasms.”


I hope these musings inspire others to go a little further the next time they want to seduce their lover. There’s a time and place for a grand, over-the-top gesture to show how much you want to get frisky with your lover. They don’t come along often, but whenever you have the opportunity, I encourage everyone to take it.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Sexy Nerd Girl Edition

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I love comics, video games, and superhero movies. Two decades ago, I would’ve been labeled a nerd or a geek for admitting that out loud. Go back a few more decades and there wasn’t just a stigma to it. There was a full-blown moral panic that’s almost too absurd to put into words.

Then, superhero movies began making billions at the box office. Say what you will about the genre, and plenty have, but nothing makes that much money without having a wide appeal to a wide variety of people. Among those people are the sexy nerd girls and, having dated at least one in the past, they have a special place in my heart.

These days, girls who admit to liking the same things as boys is still somewhat taboo, but there was a time when it was downright surprising. There was this one girl in middle school I knew who loved all things Nintendo. She could talk for hours about Nintendo games and Nintendo characters. If you just saw a picture of her, you probably wouldn’t have guessed that as being her passion.

She was a fun girl to hang out with. I’ve met other girls like her. They carry themselves with a special kind of sex appeal that any nerdy guy can appreciate. They completely counter the idea that being nerdy means having no sex appeal. For that, they have a special place in my heart and are deserving of some Sexy Sunday Thoughts. Enjoy!


“Thinking things through may save lives, but acting on impulses creates them.”


“Having a lover enjoys rough sex also tends to reveal how out of shape you are.”


“Whoever first developed a spanking fetish must have had confused parents.”


“Broken hearts take an emotional toll, but broken condoms take a financial toll.”


“When you think about it, a refractory period is basically your genitals on low battery.”


“It’s very likely that ideas on why women fake orgasms led to the first conspiracy theories.”


“Practically speaking, whoever said variety was the spice of life was probably a slut.”


To all the sexy nerd girls out there who blend their sexiness with their nerdiness, I sincerely thank you. I know it’s not easy participating in these things that are primarily dominated by men, some of which are socially awkward. Trust me when I say that your presence makes things better.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Perfect Marriage Proposal Edition

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A marriage proposal usually the climatic moment of a blossoming romance. It’s the core ingredient for a happy ending in a fairy tale. It’s also glorified, commercialized, and idealized in the minds of romantics and marketing executives who sell diamond rings. That doesn’t take away from its romantic essence.

Now, I’m not married yet. I’m currently single and have been for quite a while now. However, I recently had a close family member of mine get engaged in a way that triggered every one of my romantic sentiments. It was beautiful. I saw the pictures and recounted the moment. I’m not going to lie. I almost overdosed on feels and joy.

Out of respect for my family’s privacy, I won’t share too many personal details. I just know that any close family member who reads this knows who I’m referring to. That proposal is a big deal for our family. For the next several months, we’ll be planning a wedding for the ages and I’m sure I’ll have plenty to say about it along the way.

In the meantime, I’d like to dedicate this week’s edition of my Sexy Sunday Thoughts to the apex of romantic gestures. It takes a lot of love, desire, and dedication to propose to someone. It reflects a level of love and commitment that goes beyond basic attraction. Love like that is worth celebrating. It starts with a proposal, but ends with something greater. That inspires more than just sexy thoughts.


“No matter how sexy you are, an adorable pet will always get more foreplay in the long run.”


“A blind date was very likely the first form of gambling and good sex was the first true jackpot.”


“Impressing a woman won’t always turn her on, but it will often guide her towards sexier thoughts.”


“The primary difference between a mistress and a prostitute is mistresses make long-term investments in lieu short-term benefits.”


“For rich people, a prenuptial agreement is tantamount to illicit orgasm insurance.”


“BDSM is the only form of micromanagement that leads to orgasms.”


“If you believe in fate, then can any orgasm ever be premature?”


For those lucky enough to have witnessed or taken part in a marriage proposal, I hope this inspired some fond memories. I hope I can one day have a chance to propose to someone, as well. Until then, I have plenty of eventful moments to look forward to. My family couldn’t be more excited. I share in that excitement and I hope it inspires more than just sexy thoughts in the long run.

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