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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Fancy Cocktail Edition

For a good chunk of my adult life, I wasn’t much of a drinker. There’s a story behind that, but I’ll save it for another day. However, I did understand the appeal of alcohol. I also knew there was a time and a place for certain drinks. Not all were equal in terms of alcohol content, situation, or intention. A shot of Jack Daniels is not the same as a Bud Light. That much was clear.

Within that broad spectrum, though, are cocktails. Even before I started drinking, I understood they were a special kind of drink. They were almost works of art, mixing certain ingredients in just such a way that it creates a unique drinking experience. Some have strange names. From a simple Cosmopolitan to a Mojito to a Manhattan, they all offer a unique blend of sorts.

I admit I haven’t tried many of them, but of those I have, I can attest to that uniqueness. Drinking a cocktail feels like a celebration for your taste buds and your liver. It’s less about getting drunk and more about enjoying the social aspects of drinking. As a result, those social aspects can have a romantic component. I know relationships and hook-ups that began with a social gathering that involved cocktails.

When done right, and not excessively, cocktails can be a catalyst for all sorts of wonderful social interactions, including the sexy kind. I don’t claim to be a cocktail afficionado, but I do deem them worthy of some Sexy Sunday Thoughts on a morning when I’m sure some people could use both. Enjoy!


“Ideally, virgins should find someone who think being nervous during sex is hot.”


“Being sexually repressed is daring your body to get revenge on you at some point.”


“A casual friend is just someone you’re not eager to see naked.”


“Being a good listener is like being an informant to your genitals.”


“Making excuses is only as sexy as the gullibility and horniness of those listening.”


“If you still giggle when other people talk about sex, then chances are you’re not ready for it.”


“Is it possible that those who have a crush on their teachers just have a knowledge fetish?”

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George Carlin (Still) Perfectly Explains The Abortion Issue For 2020

These are scary times for many people. Between pandemics and politics, a simple scroll through your daily news feed might as well be a horror movie. However, for those concerned about abortion rights in the United States, it’s even scarier.

There’s a very real possibility that abortion rights could regress. Now, with a new vacancy on the Supreme Court, it’s very likely that the laws surrounding abortion will change considerably in the next several years, regardless of how the election pans out.

If you’re a woman, I feel for you. I honestly have no idea how frightening it must be, the prospect of going back to a world where abortion had to occur in the shadows.

Now, with abortion being such a relevant issue, I’m tempted to write about it more. I’m also considering doing a video about it for my YouTube channel, Jack’s World. I’m not quite sure I want to invite those kinds of politics to this site or my channel just yet. If I do, I’ll be sure to announce it.

In the meantime, I still want to leave those debating the abortion issue with something of substance. Thankfully, the late great comedian, George Carlin, already masterfully broke down this issue years ago. To date, I’ve yet to see anyone make a more effective statement on the abortion issue and the absurdities surrounding it. Just watch and see for yourself.

He could’ve said every word of this today and it still would’ve been relevant. It still would’ve been true, accurate, and concise. Honestly, it’s kind of sad that this didn’t end the debate completely. It’s even sadder that neither side has come up with better arguments.

We miss you, George Carlin.

This world really needs someone like you, right now.

Abortion is such a sensitive issue and one that will only get more divisive in the coming weeks. I don’t know what the endgame is. I just know it’s going to get a whole lot worse before it gets better.

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A Re-Post In Honor Of Ruth Bader Ginsburg: How Overturning Roe v. Wade Can (And Probably Will) Backfire

First of, rest in peace Ruth Bader Ginsburg. I don’t care who you are or where you fit on the political spectrum. Justice Gisburg was an extraordinary woman who accomplished so much. Even if you didn’t agree with her, politically, at least respect how much she did for women’s rights, civil rights, and her country as a whole.

That being said, her death has caused a lot of upheaval and in an election year, no less. It’s impossible to overstate how impactful her death will be on the rhetoric moving forward. That’s especially true of the abortion issue.

It’s been one of the biggest fears of pro-choice advocates. The death of Justice Ginsburg means the Supreme Court can now be filled with a pro-life justice who will overturn the Roe v. Wade decision the first chance they get. That could very well return abortion laws to the spotty, and at times draconian system that existed before.

As scary as that is for millions of women, I want to offer a bit of perspective to those already dreading the political ramifications. To do so, I’d like to repost a piece I wrote a while back on the consequences of overturning Roe v. Wade. I don’t expect it to provide much comfort to those still mourning the death of Justice Ginsburg, but I hope it offers some balance to the dread.

Again, RIP Mrs. Ginsburg. You really were an inspiration to millions, regardless of gender.


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As much as I dislike talking about abortion, I don’t deny that I’ve written more about it in the past year than I have since I started this website. I know that sends mixed messages, but I feel there are valid reasons for that.

I watch the news too, although never on a full stomach. I see the same thing everyone else sees with respect to the increasingly tenuous state of abortion rights. With each passing year, more and more restrictions are placed on abortion. As other parts of the world liberalize their laws, the United States is going in the opposite direction.

Now, in wake of shake-ups on the Supreme Court, it’s more likely than ever that Roe v. Wade, the case that legalized abortion nationwide in 1973, will be overturned. While I don’t think it’s guaranteed, I do think it’s possible. If I had to put betting odds on it, I would say that there’s a 50/50 chance that Roe v. Wade could be overturned by 2024.

If that happens, there are many implications. Many people who are more informed on this issue have already articulated as such. Making abortion illegal could lead to more unwanted pregnancy, increases in crime, increases in poverty, and serious health risks for women seeking back-alley abortions.

We’re already seeing some of these impacts play out in states where abortion is severely restricted. Several states have imposed so many restrictions that they’re down to only one abortion clinic. Due to these burdens, the impact on women, especially those who are poor, has been exceedingly harsh.

Those impacts are likely to intensify if Roe v. Wade is overturned, but I don’t want to get into that part of the issue. I also don’t want to focus on the legal issues, since I’m not a lawyer. Instead, I want to focus on unintended consequences.

I know that the anti-abortion crowd has this Utopian vision of a world after Roe v. Wade. They have this dream that the Supreme Court will overrule the 1973 decision and shortly after, every state will outlaw the procedure. They’ll throw a parade. They’ll proclaim to the world that they won.

Suddenly, women can no longer end an unwanted pregnancy. As a result, they have to start carrying their pregnancies to term. This will force the women, the men who impregnated them, and their families to take responsibility for their actions. They can no longer be sexually promiscuous. They now have to temper their behavior and live more restrained lives.

While nobody can predict the future, I can say without reservation that this dream will not come true. Human nature is never that simple, especially when it comes to law. Overturning Roe v. Wade will not end abortion. It will not make women carry more pregnancies to term. It will not lead to a society consistent with Pat Roberston’s values.

That’s because there’s one law that no court can ever overturn and that’s the law of unintended consequences. Make no mistake. There will be unintended consequences for overturning Roe v. Wade, many of which I doubt the anti-abortion movement has contemplated.

What follows are several unintended consequences of overturning Roe v. Wade that will make the anti-abortion crowd cringe. Whether they oppose abortion for religious reasons or for ethical reasons, these are consequences that will do more than taint that abortion-free fever dream of theirs. At the very least, I hope it gives those who oppose abortion a moment of pause.


Consequence #1: Abortion Will Become More Common (And Harder To Protest)

Remember when the United States banned marijuana and shortly after that, it disappeared completely? Neither do I because not only did that fail to occur, the exact opposite transpired. Marijuana has been illegal for nearly a century in the United States and it’s more popular now than it was in the days before “Refer Madness.”

Abortion is not like illicit drugs, but it’s subject to similar influences. In the same way making drugs illegal didn’t make them go away, making abortion illegal won’t make it disappear. It’ll only send it into the depths of the underground economy where the red tape that helps regulate the procedure doesn’t exist.

The history of “back alley abortions” is already well-documented. On top of that, these locations are not clinics where people can gather and protest. That’s what happens when you send something into the shadows. It’s harder to see, study, and scrutinize. In that environment, abortion won’t just become more dangerous. It may become more common because the traditional barriers for entry aren’t there.

If you think that seems like a stretch, just consider the choices involving marijuana. Would you rather try to sneak into a liquor store with security cameras or buy it in a dark alley from someone who has just as much incentive to avoid cops?


Consequence #2: Organized Religion’s Decline Will Accelerate

Even though the influence of religion remains strong, the steady decline of religion is well-documented. This is especially true among the younger generations who are more educated and informed than any generation before them. As a result, they will notice when religious groups take credit for banning abortion.

While those same groups often present themselves as saving babies, that’s not how everyone else will see it. We already live in a world where every racist, misogynistic, theocracy-loving sermon is captured on the internet. The same people who are becoming less religious will have even more reason to resent organized religion.

They won’t see the religiously-motivated, anti-abortion crusaders as holy people who saved innocent babies. They’ll see those people the same way we see those who used religion to justify slavery and racial segregation. Unlike previous years, being non-religious isn’t nearly as taboo and for organizations that rely heavily on adherents giving them money, that’s a big problem.


Consequence #3: An Entire Political Party Will Become The Anti-Woman Party

In the same way banning abortion could accelerate organized religion’s decline, a sizable chunk of the political spectrum could take a similar hit. In the United States, it’s primarily conservatives who oppose abortion and frequently side with religious institutions. They too probably see banning abortion as protecting innocent babies.

Again, that’s not how others will see it. Instead, an emerging generation will see conservatives as the party that put a gun to the head of every pregnant woman and demanded that she endure nine months of bodily rigor to have a child she may not be able to afford. Since women vote and make up half the population, it doesn’t bode well for their ability to win support in the future.

Women already disproportionately lean liberal and banning abortion will likely widen that gap. History shows that it’s hard for any party to overcome those gaps and stay in power. As I’ve noted before, this already played out in the 1960s in Romania. Conservatives would be wise to heed that lesson because that did not end well for the communist party and its leader.


Consequence #4: More Advanced Contraceptives Will Emerge Faster (For Women And Men)

One of the most confounding aspects of the anti-abortion movement is how much certain segments of the movement also oppose contraception. It’s downright hypocritical since education and contraceptive use has definitively shown time and again that it’s the most effective way to reduce abortions.

The fact that the anti-abortion crowd so rarely promotes those policies implies that a sizable chunk of that movement is less concerned about babies and more concerned about sex. I’ve tried to distinguish this crowd from the more sincere segments of the movement, but the lines have become more blurred in recent years.

Those lines might become a lot clearer if abortion were banned nationwide because that suddenly makes the contraception market a lot more valuable. At the moment, there isn’t much incentive to improve on the current contraceptives we have. Granted, they’re much more effective than they were before 1973, but there’s still room for improvement.

Without Roe v. Wade, the need for those improvements will be far greater and it won’t just be focused on women. Contraception for men will also get a boost because unlike 1973, there are more laws in place affecting men with issues like child support. For once, men will have to be just as vigilant about avoiding unwanted pregnancy.

This means emerging technology like the male birth control pill and Vasalgel will get a sizable boost in investment. It also means long-term, more-effective birth control like IUDs for women will get a boost as well. When the same anti-abortion crowd starts protesting that, they’ll reveal just how little they cared for babies in the first place.


Consequence #5: Promiscuous Sex Will Increase (For Entirely New Reasons)

This could also be a direct result of the boost contraception research will get from banning abortion. It’s not just because people will have access to more effective contraception, though. This is one of those backlashes that has more to do with social forces than logistical forces.

For those who are sexually active and value their sexual freedom, overturning Roe v. Wade will come off as a direct personal attack. If you’ve been on the internet for more than five minutes, you know people rarely take personal attacks lying down. They’re more likely to fight back and do the exact opposite of what you hope.

In the same way people in a debate double down on their beliefs in a heated argument, those who supported Roe v. Wade will have another reason to engage in the kind of reckless behavior that the anti-abortion crowd hates. To them, it won’t just be a form of protest. It’ll be a form of trolling.

People already have plenty of reasons to have sex just for the fun of it. No government or religious institution has ever been able to stop that and banning abortion certainly won’t do the trick. While it’s true that banning abortion will make promiscuity more dangerous, it’s also true that people are attracted to danger. If it pisses off someone you already despise, then that’s just a bonus.


Consequence #6: Providing Abortion Services Will Become More Lucrative (And Harder To Regulate)

For every unintended consequence, there’s usually a basis in money. Even for issues that are fueled with high emotions and deeply-held beliefs, it often comes back to money. That’s why the drug war can never be won. That’s why Disney will never stop making movies with singing animals. It’s all about the money.

Abortion, in its current form, is not a huge money-making venture. It’s treated like a medical service. However, put it in the same black market as illicit drugs and suddenly, the profit margins go way up. Remove it from the current medical infrastructure and all the regulations that keep it from being profitable go with it.

Instead of skilled, licensed doctors doing this procedure, people with questionable qualifications can get into the mix. On top of that, they can charge as much or as little as they want without the AMA or the FDA condemning them. That’ll make it more dangerous, but if there’s money to be made, it’ll happen.

Remember, making abortion illegal doesn’t make the women seeking abortion disappear. If they’re desperate enough, they’ll brave that danger and they’ll pay that price. Those willing to navigate that danger and exploit those situations will gain the tax-free profit. For the anti-abortion crowd and the government, it’s lose-lose.


Consequence #7: An Entire Generation Will Despise Its Elders (And Their Traditions)

Throughout history, younger generations have rebelled against older generations. You don’t need to single out the hippie generation of the 1960s to see that. Young people and old people have always whined about each other. These days, you can’t go more than five minutes without seeing a story about how Millennials are ruining something we used to love.

With abortion, there is already an established divide. According to Pew, younger generations tend to be more pro-choice than older generations. On top of that, abortion laws are more likely to affect them because they’re still building their lives and they’re going to get horny/lonely along the way.

This same generation is already more accepting of things that older people resent. They’re more accepting of divorce, polyamory, homosexuality, and all sorts of sexual practices that make priests, monks, mullahs, and rabbis gag. It certainly doesn’t help that the people in power deciding these issues are often old men who will never need an abortion. In terms of optics, it’s a pretty ugly sight.

It won’t just stop at young people distancing themselves from organized religion. It won’t stop at distancing themselves from a political party, either. Overall, the emerging generations will see their elders as the ones who stripped them of a right that they got to enjoy all their lives. That doesn’t just paint them in a negative light. It turns their values and traditions into a target.

Young people don’t need many reasons to rebel against their elders, but this is bigger than someone who can’t work a cell phone. This is an issue that affects the ability of an entire generation to make choices about their bodies, their sexuality, and their future. When another generation takes that away from them, it’s going to evoke more than ridicule. It may get pretty damn ugly.


As always, I want to remind everyone that this is just speculation. I can’t predict the future and there’s no telling what other factors may emerge in this exceedingly controversial issue. That said, I still feel comfortable stating that overturning Roe v. Wade will have consequences, many of them unintended. Some will be minor, but some will result in a full-fledged backlash. It’s just a matter of how we’ll deal with them.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Sleeping In Edition

Since high school, I’ve always been an early riser. It’s a habit, but not one I think is too unhealthy. It served me well during much of my adult life. An ability to get up at five a.m. every morning might not be a superpower, but it has some real benefits. It helps me get a lot done in the morning, including much of the work I do on this site and my YouTube channel.

Habit or not, I still try to sleep in every now and then. I see it as a form of necessary therapy. We all have hard days/hard weeks. I certainly have. Sometimes, you can’t just get out of bed at your usual time and carry yourself as though you’re just fine. You need to just lie there and get a few extra winks, even after the sun comes up.

If you’re lucky enough to have a lover, it can be both romantic and therapeutic. I know couples who treat sleeping in as their favorite sexy time. It makes sense too. At the end of the day, you’ve used up all your energy. You’re tired, groggy, and just want to rest. In the morning, if you’ve slept right, you have yourself a sexy opportunity.

I say embrace that opportunity, whether it’s sexy or just therapeutic. The summer is over and the days are getting shorter. That means sleeping in is a lot more feasible. Plus, even if you don’t have a lover to share it with, it’ll help 2020 go just a little bit faster. That makes it more than worthy of some Sexy Sunday Thoughts. Enjoy!


“Your maturity is directly proportional to your ability to attend someone’s 69th birthday party with a straight face.”


“Your consumption of incest porn is likely to make family reunions feel awkward.”


“Sluts are essentially orgasm hoarders.”


“Curiosity killed the cat, but also inspired the first attempt at anal sex.”


“Alcohol is one of the few drugs that can inspire an equal number of marriages, divorces, and one-night stands.”


“A lovable idiot will always get laid more often than a smug genius.”


“It’s logistically impossible to be too thorough while making love.”

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: NFL Kickoff 2020 Edition

It’s finally here! The wait has been longer and more stressful than usual for obvious reasons. For a time, I wasn’t even sure it was going to happen. At multiple points this past summer, there was a very real concern that all sports would be cancelled for the rest of the year. I’m not going to lie. Contemplating a fall without football of any kind was terrifying.

Thankfully, it never got that bad. It was still pretty awful, but the world is still trying to move forward. That includes sports. Every major sports league has been badly impacted by this pandemic. The NFL is no exception. This has not been a normal offseason, to say the least. This has also not been a normal build-up to the regular season. We have no idea just how much the pandemic has affected every team.

We also don’t know if the pandemic will even permit a full, uninterrupted season. That’s still up in the air. For now, though, the NFL is going to try and play an entire season on time, on schedule, albeit without full stadiums. As a football fan, as well as someone who simply longs for a sense of normalcy, I’m still excited. I genuinely hope this season plays out in full.

I’m still bracing myself, but for the time being, I’m going to enjoy the kickoff of a new season like I always have. I’ve got a fresh case of beer. I intend to order a massive amount of pizza and junk food. I plan to spend the entirety of my Sunday afternoon on the couch, yelling at the TV for all the right reasons.

I am ready. I am hopeful. The pandemic has scarred my soul, but my love of football remains strong. I am ready for some football and here are some Sexy Sunday Thoughts to celebrate the kickoff of the 2020 season. Enjoy!


“A man who is lonely and horny is bound to have a good imagination, by default.”


“Can you really say you’ve spiced up your sex life if nobody gets any rug burns?”


“A woman with a dildo collection has no right to be appalled by a man’s porno collection.”


“Sex sells, but guilt-free sex charges a premium.”


“Statistically speaking, a good listener is more likely to give you an orgasm.”


“Revenge sex is the habanero pepper of sex.”


“Love is never thinking too hard about where or on whom someone else’s tongue has been.”

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Labor Day 2020 Edition

This has been a strange, bittersweet summer, to say the least. We all know why that is. Let’s not bemoan the pandemic that has ruined so much of our world, regardless of season or holidays. Depending on where you live, this summer has been bereft of vacations, traveling, summer movies, and concerts. Add incredibly depressing news to the mix and this summer felt lost before it ever ended.

As bad as it has been, the end is just about upon us. Labor Day, often the last gasp of summer, is finally upon us. This year, it feels more like a merciful relief than a solemn resignation. Like most of 2020, every day has been a drag. Pools are closed. Theaters are closed. Theme parks are closed. Big time summer events have been cancelled or made virtual. There’s just wasn’t much to enjoy, aside from warmer weather.

We can’t undo any of that, but we can still find ways to make this Labor Day enjoyable. Even if it’s as simple as an extra day off work, take advantage of it. Cherish it. Spend extra time with family or meet up friends, but wear a mask and social distance as needed. This summer has been lacking in so many ways. It doesn’t have to lack for Labor Day.

I’m not going to lament on everything I couldn’t do this past summer. More than anything, I hope it gives me a stronger appreciation of future summers in which we’re not navigating a global pandemic. Those happier times are ahead of us. We just have to endure a bit longer. For now, let’s just have fun on Labor Day. Here are some my Sexy Sunday Thoughts to get you in the spirit. Enjoy!


“Going through puberty is like being carpet-bombed by hormones and holiness.”


“A person’s maturity is directly proportional to their ability to look at someone else’s genitals without giggling.”


“A happily married man either hides his porn stash exceptionally well or doesn’t have to.”


“A good salesman has probably talked his way out of wearing a condom at least once.”


“The fact that crazy girls are better in bed is proof that nature needs a little crazy to keep things interesting.”


“Is it ironic or hypocritical to have a fetish for average sized penises?”


“A fancy wedding is an indirect way for a couple to brag about getting tax breaks for being in love.”

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Mysterious Sex Appeal Edition

What is it about mysterious men or women that we find so alluring? That’s a loaded question, by the way. I ask it with the full knowledge that there’s rarely a complete answer. Ironically, that’s a big part of the appeal. Someone who is mysterious will always have this aura of possibility surrounding them. Depending on how dirty our minds our, we fill that possibility with something sexy.

It’s why spies like James Bond, Ethen Hunt, and even Austin Powers have a certain level of sex appeal. It’s also why women like Black Widow, Catwoman, and Samus Aran from Metroid have a similar appeal, beyond looking good in skin-tight outfits. They have secrets and subtleties that set them apart. Their story is something unique and one you want to learn more about.

That process can be as compelling as it is alluring. I’ve known my fair share of women who might not have looked as good in a skin-tight outfit as Catwoman, but they were genuine mysteries. You didn’t understand what made them tick, but you wanted to find out. Had my social skills not been so awful, I might have been part of their story.

Those willing to be part of such stories can find something that’s as romantic as it is sexy. We all have our secrets. We all choose who we reveal them to. It’s an intimate process that can foster other kinds of intimacy. We may not all be spies, but we are our own stories. I encourage everyone to think long and hard about their own stories as I share this round of my Sexy Sunday Thoughts. Enjoy!


“Being a virgin on your wedding night is like being a rookie in the Super Bowl.”


“You can tell a lot about a person by the conditions in which they masturbate.”


“Masturbation requires a certain amount of self esteem to be effective.”


“Sharing a toothbrush is more intimate than sharing a bed.”


“Drama is the emotional journey between falling in love and getting laid.”


“A good kisser has to appreciate the taste of someone else’s spit to some extent.”


“Meaningless sex may always be taboo, but loveless marriages will always cause more misery.”

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Mixed Race Sex Appeal Edition

There are those who say love has no boundaries. I agree to some extent. I’m more inclined to say that love has boundaries beyond what every sitcom made after 1955 has prescribed. Most people alive today may think we’re pushing the envelope in terms of who, what, where, when, and how we love. I don’t think they appreciate just how far we’ve come.

There was indeed a time, and it wasn’t that long ago, when mixed-race romance was extremely taboo. In fact, there are a lot of people alive today who remember that time. It’s easy to forget that interracial marriage wasn’t made fully legal until 1967 in the United States and in many parts of the world, it’s still taboo.

That’s a travesty. At the same time, it adds a forbidden fruit aspect to the mix. No matter how taboo or unappealing it may be to some, it still happens. It happens a lot. I say that as someone who’s first girlfriend was an Asian woman and I am not Asian. Even though it didn’t work out for us, other relationships find a way. Some go onto produce beautiful mixed-race children.

Taboos aside, I think it’s a beautiful thing. It’s a perfect manifestation of love and sex appeal transcending differences. The fact that mixed-race couples find a way to make it work in a society that loves clinging to bigotry demonstrates just how powerful it can be. When different races mix, beautifully sexy things can happen. Here are some Sexy Sunday Thoughts to acknowledge that beauty. Enjoy!


“The appeal of kinky sex is not that different from the appeal of skydiving.”


“Taboo keeps some men from wearing a thong, but it’s basic male anatomy that dissuades most.”


“Sometimes, a big part of being in love is a willingness to whore yourself to someone for free.”


“It’s difficult for someone to love giving oral sex and have a weak stomach.”


“The measure of a good lover isn’t their ability to find their lover’s G-spot, but their willingness to keep trying.”


“Going to a prostitute for love is like going to a dentist for a prostate exam”


“Very few love stories start or end with an orgy.”

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A Brief Note On Cardi B’s “WAP” For The Ben Shapiros, Religious Zealots, And Regressive Whiners

When I was a kid, one of the most obscene, deplorable things in media was Mortal Kombat. This video game was deemed so obscene, so violent, and so utterly wrong that it would destroy an entire generation.

Yes, people believed this poorly rendered violence would destroy a generation. Honestly, I’m insulted.

Not long after that, it was the overly sexual attire that Brittney Spears wore in her music videos. Apparently, that was deemed too graphic for a generation to handle. It was going to corrupt everyone with horribly impure thoughts about sexuality.

Again, having been young at the time, I’m insulted. Then again, there was one a time when Elvis’ hips were deemed too sexual. We, as a society, still have a lot of issues to overcome with respect to sex. It still makes us uncomfortable and uptight. It makes adults afraid for their children and children afraid of their own bodies. This is not new.

Now, let me make a quick note on Cardi B’s recent song and music video, “WAP.” For those not up on the acronyms, “WAP” stands for Wet Ass Pussy. I’ll give everyone who had one too many health lessons from priests, rabbis, mullahs, and republicans a moment to stop gasping. I’ll give another for the uptight regressive whiners on the left who think anything overtly sexual is somehow damaging to women.

Everybody okay? Good, because I think we should all take a step back and take a deep breath, while we’re at it.

 

Let me start by saying I’m not a big fan of Cardi B. I don’t like her music or her style, but I totally respect her effort. It’s not easy to achieve the status she has achieved. It’s even harder to stay relevant at a time like this when the dumbest things start trending for no reason.

Even though I’m not a fan, I still find myself respecting her more for the reaction she garnered for this song. From Ben Shapiro to Tucker Carlson, the people who often ally themselves with fun-hating religious zealots who seem to want women to be 1950s housewives are aghast at this song. That shouldn’t surprise anyone. These are the same people who whined about Dungeons and Dragons, for crying out loud.

What should be concerning, though, is how their reaction seems to imply they don’t know how female bodies work. It’s one thing to be ignorant about sexuality in general, but it’s not like Cardi B’s song is breaking new ground. Popular music has had graphic depictions of sex acts and genitalia for decades. Cardi B is just the latest. She just happens to be more overt than most when it comes to depicting female genitalia.

I know that’s going to make a certain crowd very uncomfortable, but so long as they’re thinking about Cardi B and wet ass pussies, I think this is a good time to remind them of something.

Female genitalia gets wet and moist when aroused.

Just like male genitalia getting hard, female genitalia getting wet and moist is part of the process.

In general, that’s a good thing. If a woman is going to enjoy sex, it’s important that she be aroused. That’s why foreplay is so important for both parties during sex. Whether you’re gay, straight, or something in between, this is basic human anatomy. None of this is a medical secret. Anyone can look up the process of female arousal, provided they can sift through the porn.

Cardi B singing a song about why it’s awesome is no different than a male singer celebrating how great it is to have a dick. There’s nothing wrong with, either. We’re all naked underneath our clothes. We all have certain parts of our bodies that garner more attention than others.

It’s okay to celebrate our bodies.

It’s okay to be horny, aroused, or excited.

It’s even okay to know your body well enough to understand what makes it feel good.

I know that’s always been a sore point for some people. The female body is still very taboo. Why else would we still censor female nipples? The idea of women enjoying sex is also taboo, thanks largely to some of those awkward feelings I mentioned earlier. It’s a big reason why we have an orgasm gap.

I’m not saying Cardi B’s song will do anything to mend that gap or temper the taboos surrounding the female body. I’m just think this is a good opportunity to acknowledge how awkward we still are about female genitalia. There are some reasons for that, but few are good or valid.

Female genitalia gets wet when aroused. It’s a good thing, in general. Women understanding how their bodies work is healthy and necessary. There will always be songs and media about the female form, as well as the male form. You can whine about it all you want. That’s not going to change anything.

Also, let this also be a teachable moment for men, women, and everything in between about the value of understanding your partner’s body. At the very least, let us all offer some sympathy and understanding to Ben Shapiro’s wife.

Today, it’s Cardi B’s wet ass pussy.

Yesterday, it was Elvis’ hips.

We have a long way to go with respect to appreciating and understanding sexuality. Let this be a step in that process.

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Jack Fisher’s Sexy Sunday Thoughts: Quick Fling Edition

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Every love story is unique. It’s even more so for the sexier kind of love stories. As an aspiring erotica/romance writer, I’ve come to appreciate the broad spectrum of those stories. Some are more dramatic than others, but not every love story, sexy or otherwise, needs to involve fairy tale endings that involve life-long romance.

Every once in a while, a quick fling that lasts only a few days, if that, can be just as meaningful. It’s not the same kind of romance you get with stories involving star-crossed lovers, but it can be just as compelling. I’ve seen real people experience brief, but passionate flings that barely last a few days. Even though it doesn’t work out long-term, it still has a profound impact.

Personally, I haven’t had too many of those flings in my life. That’s more a side-effect of the poor social skills I wielded for the first half of my life than anything else. However, I’ve seen enough of them play out with others, including a few close friends and relatives, to appreciate their worth. In terms of romance, it may not be the most epic, but it can still be fun.

I know it’s hard to have a fling of any kind, given the current state of the world. One day, hopefully soon, it will be possible again. Given how isolated we’ve all been for the past several months, I think we all could use one. To that end, here are some Sexy Sunday Thoughts to get you in a romantic, fling-loving mood. Enjoy!


“Isn’t it counterproductive for a romantic evening to wear clothes that are hard to get out of?”


“A friendly divorce is as logical as a horny asexual.”


“Virtual sex is just a much more vivid wet dream.”


“How much porn someone has on their hard drive is not as revealing as what percentage of that drive is used to store it.”


“Hate sex is basically aggressive orgasm seeking.”


“There are remarkably few socially acceptable ways to compliment someone’s genitals.”


“Porn has completely misconstrued how sexy taking a shower actually is most of the time.”

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