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Recounting And Celebrating My Greatest Little League Triumph

Growing up, I loved sports.

As an adult, I still love sports.

But when I was growing up, I didn’t just enjoy watching sports with my dad on a Sunday afternoon. I actually played sports. I’ll never claim to have been very good. There’s a reason why I never played sports at a high school or college level. I learned early on that I have many gifts. But athletic talent is not among them.

Even so, I had my share of highlights and lowlights while playing sports as a kid. For the most part, I played baseball. That made a lot of sense. My dad was a huge baseball fan. He’d watch baseball with me on many summer afternoons while I was an infant. And some of my earliest memories involve playing catch in our backyard.

While I wasn’t overly strong or athletic, I was good in some areas. I could catch better than most kids my age. I could also throw the ball a lot more accurately than most kids with stronger arms. That ensured that, even if I didn’t make the all-star team, I would never be the worst player on any team I played on.

I managed to maintain that level from my earliest days playing T-ball to when I played single-A for one season. In that time, I made my share of plays. I also had my share of bad games, including one where I didn’t get a single hit and never got on base once.

However, among those bad games and mediocre games that I’ve long since forgotten, there is one memory from my little league baseball career that still stands out. It is, by far, my proudest moment from my limited tenure playing sports.

Since I know my dad and relatives occasionally read this site, there’s a good chance they already know which moment I’m about to recount. I still don’t think they fully appreciate just how powerful this memory is for me. Because for a single moment, I was the most clutch player on the field. And in the span of a single play, I single-handedly won a game for my team.

To set the stage, this occurred while I was playing my little league team, the Pirates. That was the team I’d been on for years. My dad was good friends with the coach. And he frequently assisted with managing games. That mattered because I think my coach and my dad helped our team be better than our collective talent. We were probably the second or third best team among our peers that year. It was probably the best team I’d ever been on.

But the team we were playing was every bit as good as us, if not better. They were the Marlins. And for the most part, they were our equals in terms of talent and competence. They hit just as well as us. They fielded just as well as us. But they also had on their team this kid who was about six inches taller than any other kid. I don’t know if that kid was just naturally tall or a couple years older. But he definitely made his presence felt throughout that game.

The game was still close from start to finish. My team got up early by a couple runs. But the Marlins caught up and even took the lead at one point in the fourth inning. Since we only played six inning games at this level, we had limited chances left.

But we made the most of those chances. At the top of the sixth and final inning, two of our best hitters drew in a couple runs. That put us ahead by a score of 4 to 3. I didn’t get a hit during that rotation. But I was also playing first base on defense for that inning. It wasn’t my usual position. But since I could catch better than most, it was probably the best position I could’ve been in at that moment.

It ended up being key in terms of how the bottom of the sixth played out in that game.

It started off promising with a ground out. But then, the best hitters on the team came up and they delivered. The first shot right by the short stop for a double. The second happened to be that tall kid I mentioned earlier. He hit a bouncing ball towards second that ended up being a single. My teammate could not gather it in time to make a play.

So, that left runners on first and third. And with only two outs remaining, the Marlins could’ve easily tied the game with a simple fly ball. They could even win it with a line drive. In nearly any other circumstances in a little league game at this level, the game was either going to be tied or won by whichever team was batting.

But on this particular day, that’s not how it played out.

The kid at bat got behind the count. I’m already bracing for a tie or loss at this point. I’m just trying not to let it show. The big kid on base was grinning. I think he expected to be the winning run. He didn’t say anything, but I could sense what he was thinking.

Then, it happened. On an inside fastball, the kid got a hit and the ball flew right at me. Instinctively, the big kid at first started running, as did the kid at third. But I managed to get right under the ball at just the right moment to catch it. And as soon as I did, the runners tried to run back. But it was too late. My foot was already on first. And I made sure to tag the big kid running right back towards me.

The look of shock on his face is something I’ll never forget.

From my perspective, it happened so quickly that I barely had time to think about it. I liken it to one of those moments in sports where your brain goes into a different mode and you just act. Call it The Zone. Call it clutch mentality. Call it whatever you want. But in that moment, I had it. And in that single play, I gave my team the final two outs that sealed our win.

That didn’t initially register at first, even as my dad, coach, and teammate started cheering. Even when I realized what had happened, I still didn’t believe it. I’d actually won the game for my team on what a fluky, yet clutch play. It was, by far, the greatest play I’d ever made for any sport at any level. It didn’t matter that it was just a little league game with limited stakes with a bunch of kids my age.

I still won the game for my team.

I still made the play that needed to be made when it mattered most.

I never made a play that big again. And I didn’t continue playing little league for much longer after that year. But even if I was never going to play baseball in the big leagues, for one single day in my life, I could say without reservation that I single-handedly won a game for my team. For one day, I felt like a true champion.

It’s a special feeling that’s truly unique to sports, regardless of age or level. And even if that was the peak of my little league career, I’ll always treasure that feeling.

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I’ve Accepted That I Will Never Get Married (For Now)

This is a video from my YouTube channel, Jack’s World.

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I get personal and reflect on my past and present, in terms of relationships. While I have gone on dates and I’ve even had a girlfriend before, I am single as of the making of this video. And given my current circumstances, I’ve fully accepted that I may never get married.

But that doesn’t have to be sad or tragic. I’m old enough to understand who I am and what I seek in a partner. That may still change. But for now, I’m fine with being alone. And I hope this video offers perspective to those in a similar situation.

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Thanksgiving 2025: Being Thankful In Uncertain Times

This is a video from my YouTube channel, Jack’s World.

A special Thanksgiving message from me to an uncertain world. Enjoy!

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How Small Compliments Can Make Someone’s Day

I get that we live in a strange, messed up world. You don’t need to look hard to find a news story that will significantly undermine whatever faith in humanity you might possess. And outside the news, you’re likely to encounter certain frustrations and inconveniences that make you want to pull your hair out and shout every profanity you know.

At the same time, there are just as many things that can genuinely make your day and put a smile on your face. They can be big or small. Be it news that a loved one expecting their first child to that sweet feeling you get when you sip your morning coffee, these good things can significantly outweigh whatever bad you encounter over the course of a day.

Even if you struggle to find those experiences, it’s not difficult to help someone else enjoy those experiences. In some cases, it doesn’t even cost you anything. It can be as simple as giving someone a genuine, unprompted compliment. It may not be much, but it may very well be enough to make someone’s day, if not their whole week.

I know this because recently, I received a compliment from a close relative that stuck with me and made what had been a rough week a whole lot better. It was admittedly minor. We were all just sitting at the dinner table during a family gathering, talking amongst ourselves.

At one point, I rest my arms on the table after we finished eating. And that’s when this relative, with no real prompt or incentive, complimented how much muscle I’d gained on my arms lately. It actually took me off-guard for a moment. While it’s true I do go to the gym regularly and most of my relatives know that, I rarely get comments on how it shows, be it my health or my appearance.

Also, I rarely get comments on my appearance, in general. Some of that is my fault. I did not take care of myself for a good chunk of my life. It wasn’t until my late 20s that I started working out. And I was well into my 30s by the time I got into a good enough routine and diet to see real results. Even then, very few people said much about how I looked. And if I did get compliments, it was usually in a context that didn’t make them resonate too much.

But this one did. This one wasn’t just from someone who knew me well, even before I started working out. This came from someone who just noticed and went out of their way to make a kind remark. And having not gotten many such remarks regarding my appearance for most of my life, it really stuck with me.

I suspect many others with self-esteem or other personal issues would feel the same way. Getting compliments of any kind when you don’t get them regularly can mean a lot. It can be the difference between having a bad day and having a great day. It can also be something that inspires you to keep doing what you’re doing, especially if you weren’t sure if it was working.

It may still be tempting to second guess someone’s motives for giving you a compliment. People can become jaded and cynical for any number of reasons. Getting out of that mentality can be an arduous process that will take much more than a few unprompted compliments.

But even among the most misanthropic people, a few kind words can do a lot for someone on multiple levels. Whether they come from friends, family, or total strangers, they can have an impact. And it’s often positive. In a world where it’s so much easier to notice awful things, giving or receiving a compliment can mean so much to someone.

So, if you can, find an opportunity to give someone a compliment. You don’t know just how much someone needs it or how much good it will do them in the long run.

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Why I Live Alone, But Don’t Feel Lonely

Loneliness is an awful, solemn feeling. Nobody denies that.

We’ve all probably had points in our lives when we’ve felt utterly alone, literally and figuratively. I know I have. There have been times when I’ve just laid in bed at night, staring up at the ceiling, and feeling like I’m in this dark prison cell that I can never escape. I don’t care who you are or how tough you think you are. That feeling hurts on a fundamental level.

Human beings are social creatures. That’s not an opinion. That’s a tangible, fundamental aspect of our species. No matter how much of a rugged individualist you think you are, we still need some level of social interaction to maintain our mental well-being. It doesn’t have to be overly elaborate. It just has to be there.

I make this point because there has been increasing talk of a loneliness epidemic. And it’s something that the COVID-19 pandemic did plenty to intensify. I know I felt it at times. I’m sure others felt it far worse than me. And even though the worst of the pandemic is behind us, those lingering feelings of loneliness are still there.

Now, I don’t claim to be an expert. I also won’t try to offer some contrived bullshit solution that a life coach might charge someone for. That’s not my style. All I can do is share my own experience and how I’ve dealt with loneliness in the past.

Because years ago, especially when I was out of college and starting off on my own, I felt pretty damn lonely. In college, I was surrounded by people my age. And even though I had awful social skills, poor self-image, and lingering personal problems that started in high school, I took some comfort in knowing I was surrounded by others like me. Even if I didn’t interact with them as much as I wish I had, I felt like we were all sharing the same struggles that came with going to class, studying for exams, and budgeting our limited money.

Then, I graduated and got out into the real world. Suddenly, I was in an environment where I was expected to fend for myself. Even though I had a wonderful family who supported me every step of the way, it was overwhelming. I felt isolated and lonely, wondering if I was strong enough to handle all of this.

Keep in mind, I still lived with others at the time. Even after I moved out of my parents’ house, I went through a period in which I lived in shared houses and apartments with other people. Most were around my age. And for the most part, I got along with these people. At one point, I lived in this large suburban house with five other people who all met on Craigslist. It’s not quite as chaotic as it sounds, but I was rarely ever completely alone in that place.

But I still felt lonely. I still felt isolated, even though my parents were just a 20-minute drive away. Those were difficult times.

However, I did get through it. Things did get better.

Now, as I write this, I live alone. I have my own place and I have no roommates. I’m also single, at the moment. I was single throughout the COVID-19 pandemic, as well.

And yet, I don’t feel nearly as lonely as I did during those years when I lived in a shared home. I don’t even feel as lonely as I did in college, despite being on a large campus surrounded by people in a similar situation.

I know that sounds like a paradox, but it’s the truth. I can only do so much to explain why I feel this way. I’ll only say that loneliness is an easy feeling to fall into without much effort. And it takes a lot more effort to actually escape it.

By that, I don’t mean pushing yourself to go out, meet people, and make new friends just to feel less lonely. That’s a mistake I see a lot of people making, especially socially awkward people like I was for much of my early life. If your reason for making friends is to just be less lonely, then you’re not making friends for the right reasons. And if you’re trying to talk to people just to feel less lonely, that’s just as bad a reason. That essentially turns your social interactions into something selfish.

It’s not about actually wanting to meet peole and be their friends. It’s about you and making yourself feel better.

That’s not a healthy mentality. And I freely admit I had that mentality for a good chunk of my early 20s. Growing out of it took time, as well as a concerted effort. It also required efforts that went beyond just improving my inherently poor social skills.

I’ve noted before how hard it was for me to get into shape after having many unhealthy habits throughout my life. I didn’t start working out regularly until I was almost 30 and when I started, it took a while for me to really feel the benefits. And while it might not have been my primary goal, working on myself and trying to be healthier really helped me feel less lonely.

Beyond just improving my mental well-being and self-image, it made me much more comfortable in my own skin. I feel like it sent a message to myself that I care enough about myself to put in the effort to be better, even when it requires spending an hour at the gym or running through freezing weather in the middle of January. Once that message sank in, I felt more confident to connect with others for the right reasons.

At the same time, my general social skills and communication skills had improved to a point where I really felt the benefits. It showed in how I interacted with family and friends. It showed in how I interacted with total strangers, both in real life and online. And during the COVID-19 pandemic, I leaned on those new skills to help me feel connected with others.

Those connections didn’t have to be big or elaborate. One thing that really helped was scheduling regular Zoom calls with my siblings and parents. That ended up helping me make entirely new connections because I met a lot of my siblings’ friends that I usually don’t get to interact with. Later on, once the pandemic faded, I met up with them in real life and it was a great experience. It felt like a true mark of progress that I didn’t realize I was achieving.

And if I can achieve that kind of progress, then I’m confident everyone reading this can as well. Yes, there are still times when I feel lonely. But it’s a feeling that doesn’t hit nearly as hard as it once did. Even though I live alone at the moment, I never feel the same crippling isolation I used to feel years ago.

For that, I’m grateful to the friends I’ve made in that time.

And I’m even more grateful to my parents and family, who were there for me during those times.

I realize I’m very lucky in some regards. Not everyone can enjoy the opportunities I’ve had. But we’re all capable of confronting loneliness in our own unique way. And I sincerely hope that by sharing my experience, others can draw strength from it.

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Happy Thanksgiving 2024: Being Thankful During Good (Yet Difficult) Times

This is a video from my YouTube channel, Jack’s World.

This video is a short message of hope and thanks in the spirit of the Thanksgiving holiday. Enjoy!

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Sharing A Weird (But Funny) Dream Involving My Nephew

Dreams are strange, mysterious things. Many of us have them, regardless of age, culture, language, or circumstances. Science has tried studying them, but even decades of medical research hasn’t shed much insight into what they are or why they happen.

For most of us, they these strange experiences that we struggle to remember once we wake up. They may leave us confused, restless, or anxious. But whenever they happen, it feels like our brain is trying to tell us something and we’re struggling to listen.

Trying to navigate them or just being able to remember them can be a challenge. For a time, when I was in college, I actually tried to keep a dream journal. I honestly don’t know where it is. But I did find that keeping a journal did help me remember my dreams more vividly. They were still rarely clear. They also weren’t very logical or revealing. But I did find it helpful, at least in terms of exploring the experience.

Over the course of my life, certain dreams have stood out more than others. Some have been pleasant. Some have been not-so-pleasant. Others just don’t make any sense and weren’t worth remembering. But one in particular, which occurred just a couple years ago, still stands out to me. For some reason, I can remember this dream more clearly than most. And I wasn’t even keeping a journal at the time.

I’d still like to share it because, in addition to actually remembering it, I found it funny. On top of that, it involves one of my adorable nephews, which is probably why it stands out more than others. It happened when one of them was still an infant who couldn’t walk. But to this day, I often find myself thinking about that dream whenever I visit him to get in some quality Uncle Jack time.

The dream played out in a strange, surreal sequence, as many dreams do. I found myself lying on a floor with soft white rug. It wasn’t exactly comfortable, but I did recognize where I was. It was a room in my sister and her husband’s house. Specifically, it was my nephew’s room. I’d been there before whenever I visited them with my parents. It’s where he kept his toys and took his naps.

But for reasons I don’t fully understand, I somehow fell asleep in this room while lying on the floor. To be honest, that does sound like something I might do. If I ever get tired and groggy, I’ll fall asleep in strange situations. But what made this stand out even more was that my infant nephew was right there with me.

However, he wasn’t sleeping. He was sitting up right next to me. He had this big marker in his hand, not unlike the ones I’d seen him draw with before. And he was using it to write something on my face. I distinctly remember feeling it. I also remember looking up at him, seeing that distinct look in his face he got whenever he drew, and surmising what he was doing.

At this point in the dream, my sister and her husband show up. I become a bit more alert, so I’m able to get up slightly. But when I see them, they’re both laughing hysterically. They’re laughing so hard they’re holding onto each other to keep from keeling over. Then, my nephew begins laughing too. And I can still feel the marker on my face.

As the laughter escalates, I become urgently curious. I try to get up and find a mirror to see what my nephew drew on my face. The bathroom in my sister’s house just happens to be across from his room. So, I rush in. But before I can see what he drew on my face, I woke up.

It was a somewhat jarring feeling, waking up from a dream like that. On this particular morning, I distinctly remember it being around 4:30 a.m. I also remember just sitting up in my bed, shaking my head, and laughing to myself as well. I was honestly still very curious. I really did want to know what my nephew drew on my face that had my sister and her husband laughing so hard. Sadly, I’ll probably never know.

But to this day, I still remember that dream fondly. I’ve included it in the many other fond memories I’ve forged with my nephew, as well as my nieces. I’ve said before how much I love being an uncle. Maybe this dream was my brain’s way of telling me how much I’d embraced that role and how important my nieces and nephews are to me.

If that’s the case, then that just makes this dream more precious.

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Why Time Seems To Go Faster As You Get Older

When I was a kid, the school year always seemed to go on forever. I know it was nine months out of the year and that was a sizable chunk of any given year. But looking back on it, I swear every day felt longer, every week felt like a month, and every month felt like a year. Even as I got older, time seemed to drag and at times, it was agonizing.

These days, the flow of time feels different and not just because of the events of the COVID-19 pandemic. Granted, that did mess up everyone’s sense of time. But even before that, I noticed how the days, months, and years seem to go by differently. And the older I get, the more I feel it. I’m also not the only one.

A lot of friends and relatives I talk to will say the same thing. They swear that 2023 just started a few weeks ago. They remember the ball dropping on New Years Eve. They remember making New Years resolutions, capping off the holidays, and making plans for the new year.

The next thing they know, Halloween is over and the holidays are just around the corner. You start to wonder where the hell the rest of the year went. You wonder why and how it went by so quickly. I’ve certainly wondered that from time to time. But since the end of the pandemic, I feel like my perspectives on how the years go by has struck a unique balance.

And I count that as an accomplishment because for a good chunk of my youth, that balance was lacking and not just because of how much I struggled in high school. College was eventful, but it felt like it ended too quickly for me because I was often anxious about what I would do when I got out. Even when I started working and exploring new creative outlets, I didn’t have much certainty with respect to how I would build a life for myself.

That took a while to figure out. I also made a few mistakes along the way, as most people do when they’re young and uncertain. But once I created a more stable life for myself, finding some decent jobs and moving into my own place, that’s when I really noticed my perceptions of time change.

Unlike being in school, my life was a lot less structured and regimented. There was less obsession over navigating classes, classmates, and assignments and more focus on just getting better at whatever job I happened to have. For someone like me, I tend to thrive more when things are streamlined and I know what I need to do over the course of a given day, week, or month. That allows me to plan accordingly and get things down to a system.

Once I found that, life in general just seemed to run smoother. It also helped that I wasn’t an awkward teenager trying to handle acne, puberty, and poor social skills anymore. Life experience and maturity helped me better navigate my life on a day-to-day basis.

Plus, making my own money, being able to spend it however I wanted, and living on my own schedule was a lot more fulfilling. I was no longer constantly checking the clock, agonizing over when my next assignment or obligation was.

Yes, I had that with my job, but that always felt less stressful than school because it was more limited. There was less emphasis on following strict schedules and getting grades. What mattered more was the end results and once I knew how to do that, there was less stress and anxiety.

Now, it was more a matter of how to enjoy my personal time when I wasn’t working. Having more of that, as well as enough money to make the most of it, really benefited me in terms of mental health. But it also made that time feel more fleeting and precious. When you’re doing your own thing and enjoying it every step of the way, it seems to end sooner. That’s often how I feel every time my trip to New York Comic Con ends.

I suspect that feeling will continue to evolve as I get older. There is some real science behind why time seems to move faster as you get older. Much of it has to do with how getting older makes each experience a smaller and smaller chunk of your lived experience. I think there is some merit to that and my older friends can often attest to it.

But beyond the science, I think this feeling is best summed up by a friend of mine who retired recently. He once told me that “The days are long, but the years feel short.” And I think that holds true, regardless of how old you are.

Every day is going to go by at its own pace, regardless of whether you’re working, going to school, or just enjoying a lazy Saturday afternoon. But as you make it through each day, they add up fast. Eventually, they’ll all feel like a blur as you make it through another year. At times, it feels like those days were wasted. But I would encourage others to avoid that feeling.

Because I believe that no day is truly wasted unless you go out of your way to do so. If you’re just lounging about, but enjoying it every step of the way, then that’s not a wasted day. But if you’re just lounging about and ignoring things you know you have to do, then that is a waste and it will impact the days that follow.

In the end, it’s a balancing act. If you find yourself in a situation that works for you, then it will feel like the years will start to fly by. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing. It means that you’re not in a situation agonizing over what the next day will bring or what you’ll have to do in the weeks to come.

Perception or not, the world will keep spinning and time will keep passing us by. But if you’ve built a good life for yourself and those around you, you’ll find that the days and years were well-spent, regardless of how brief they seemed.

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Merry Christmas 2023: Celebrating And Cherishing My Growing World

This is a video from my YouTube channel, Jack’s World.

This video is a special Christmas message, as well as a celebration for how far this channel has come in 2023. Enjoy!

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The Christmas Chronicles: A Perfect Modern Christmas Movie

This is a video from my YouTube channel, Jack’s World.

This festive video celebrates “The Christmas Chronicles.” It has become one of my favorite holiday movies and it’s something I find myself watching often during the holiday season. It’s a newer entry into the crowded world of Christmas movies, but I genuinely believe that this movie has everything you’d want in a modern Christmas movie. Enjoy!

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