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Daily Sexy Musings: Subtle (Yet Sexy) Gestures

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There’s a time and place for big, romantic displays. Be they marriage proposals, anniversary presents, or Valentine’s Day gifts, there’s certainly a proper situation for that kind of spectacle. Being a romantic, I appreciate them more than most. I go out of my way to celebrate them in my novels and my sexy short stories.

As great as those displays can be, there’s something just as special about the subtle things. If you’ve ever been in love or in a serious relationship, you know what I’m talking about. It’s not some grand speech or some heart-warming display. It can be something as simple as a hug, a light kiss, or a slight caress. Whatever form it takes, it can convey more romantic sentiment than a thousand Valentine’s Day cards.

It’s something I think I notice more than most. Earlier this year, I saw a lot of it when I attended a wedding. The couple getting married weren’t the most theatrical with their love, but they had all these subtle gestures that told the story of their romance. Without getting into too many personal details, I can attest that it’s a hell of a story and one that no amount of words can tell.

I haven’t been in a relationship that serious to know what it’s like, but I hope to be in that position one day. I hope to meet someone who can take my hand and know everything I’m feeling, just through touch. It might seem melodramatic or clichéd, but it’s part of what makes love so powerful.

Having not experienced it directly, there’s only so much I can do to describe it. Keep that in mind with this Daily Sexy Musing. I can only contemplate what I’ve observed. To those lucky enough to feel it, I hope I did it justice.

It’s just a simple touch.

That’s what it looks like to the rest of the world. I stand next to you, take your hand in mine, and cast you a loving smile. It’s so mundane that nobody notices. Countless people walk by, not noticing the extent of what they see. To them, they just see two lovers, sharing a simple moment out in the open.

They have no idea how much meaning I impart.

They have no idea how much passion I convey.

They have no idea how much affection I share.

None of that matters because you know. In your eyes, I see the spark of understanding. You know why I’m saying without fancy words or elaborate displays. From the way I squeeze your hand to the way I lean into your warmth, you feel the intensity of my love. Like a hidden channel or a guarded secret, you have the key and you know how to use it.

In return, you respond with a touch of your own.

Like mine, it’s so simple. As we walk down a crowded street, you lean in and rest your head on my shoulder. Again, nobody casts us a second glance. Few even cast us a first glance. They see our love and they just pass it by. They don’t understand the connection we have, but that’s to be expected. Who else but us could grasp this feeling we’ve forged?

With no words, we can speak volumes.

With a simple gesture, we can unleash oceans of emotions.

With a slight glance, we can tell one another what can never be articulated.

That is the power and breadth of our love. Coming together was the easy part. Forging a connection, letting passions and desires blossom, was our greatest challenge. As I squeeze your hand and you squeeze mine, we confirm that we have triumphed.

Together, in only a few subtle acts, we say everything we need to say.

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Daily Sexy Musings: Brainy Sex Appeal

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It’s an old stereotype that sitcoms, teen comedies, and overused tropes have belabored over the years. Being smart isn’t sexy. You can be the smartest, most intellectually gifted person in the world. That’s still not going to impress the opposite sex as much as big tits, eight-pack abs, or a seven-figure bank account.

Like many stereotypes, it rarely reflects reality. There are people who have both intellectual prowess and uncanny sex appeal. Just look at the academic achievements of celebrities like Dolph Lundgren and Emma Watson. While their intelligence isn’t as easy to notice as their appearance, it does add more depth to their overall appeal.

Being physically attractive is basic. It gets attention and sometimes, that’s all people are looking for. However, people who seek more than that are going to want more than a cute smile. They want someone they can have a conversation with. They want someone who they can interact with mentally, as well as physically. It’s a skill that can help people who aren’t that attractive forge intimate connections.

Intelligence may never be as sexy as washboard abs or a toned butt, but it certainly has a place in establishing what someone has to offer a potential lover. You can only dazzle someone with your looks to a certain point. With a healthy intellect, you can enchant them on multiple levels and that’s a potent kind of sexiness. Consider this Daily Sexy Musing as part of that stimulating conversation, among other things. Enjoy!

With every word you say, you confound me.

With every thought you share, you astonish me.

With every emotion you evoke, you captivate me.

I was in awe of your beauty when I first saw you. Now, I am enraptured by something that cannot be seen, depicted, or molded. Your mind is the source, but what you do with it is the spectacle. Seeking love and finding someone like you is difficult enough. To have both it and a wealth of knowledge is truly incredible.

I listen and learn as often as I love and adore. You challenge me at every turn, like a distant beacon urging me to venture further. Time and again, you reveal how limited I was in mind and spirit.

Is it because I simply cannot hope to match your immense intellect?

Is it because I simply have not applied my mind as much as yours?

I don’t know the answer. Nobody has ever dared raised the question. Until you came along, I thought I knew my mental fortitude. In light of your brilliance, I am just a flicker of light in the shadow of a glowing ball of flame. I may not have the ability to burn brighter, but I have a new perspective.

In you, I connect to a larger world full of grand thoughts.

In you, I widen my gaze to ideas that strain my brain to the utmost.

In you, I dare to contemplate what I cannot understand.

With new knowledge comes new feelings and with those feelings come new passions. Hearing words I barely understand and concepts that I barely grasp gets my heart racing as quickly as my mind. I find myself drawn to you. In your presence, that proverbial flame burns brighter. To hold you in my arms and feel your loving warmth is not a simple act.

When great minds share greater insights, the greatest of passions emerge.

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Daily Sexy Musings: First Dates

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First dates are like the first sentence of an epic story. They’re a necessary and critical step towards turning that initial spark into something deeper and more passionate. Most people don’t know they’ve found the love of their life on a first date. However, if their love is meant to be, that’s when they take their first step.

I’ve had my share of first dates. I have mixed feelings about the date I went on with my first real girlfriend. It wasn’t a disaster, but it wasn’t some romantic epic, either. I took her out to my favorite restaurant, not knowing how to go about it. I was so nervous and inexperienced that I’m pretty sure I made a fool of myself at least twice. Later, I found out my ex was just as nervous and we both ultimately laughed about it.

Even though that relationship didn’t work out, that first date we shared told us that we had something special. It affirmed what we already felt to some extent and that was a great moment. Awkward moments aside, I look back at that first date fondly. To those who are still with their significant others, I’m sure that first date stands out in a great many ways.

A first date is just the first step in a much larger process. It’s a hell of a process, too. Whether or not you’re a romantic, it helps set a tone for a relationship. Strong relationships will often have memorable first dates. I hope this Daily Sexy Musing helps the established couples out there remember that first date fondly.

I just met you.

You just met me.

I don’t know you.

You don’t know me.

Tonight, we change that. I’ve dared to open my heart once more. You return the favor, accepting my invitation and sharing the unspoken intrigue that blossoms between us. Being near you, we both sense the heat of the chemistry between us. It’s like a tension that yearns to break, drawing us closer and beckoning our passions.

Every great love begins with a spark.

Every spark is only the beginning of a larger flame.

Every flame needs space, fuel, and energy to grow.

That’s what tonight is all about. On this, our first date, I intend to make the case that I am someone worth loving. I also hope to surmise whether that chemistry between us is more than just amorous instinct. You are beautiful. That much, I know to be true. Is the soul beneath that beauty worth embracing? That, I don’t know.

It’s a long, arduous process, finding out who someone is and surmising whether they’re the one for us. It involves more than just fancy dates, affectionate gestures, and heated lovemaking. Together, we seek to determine whether our lives can become entwined. Loving each other is only the first step. Being together involves many more.

No matter how many steps there are, I want to find out. In you, I see both passion and possibilities. I want to spend an entire night with you, learning about and briefly exploring your world. If you are willing, I’ll gladly share mine.

I take you by the hand.

I guide you into a night of shared intrigue.

I open myself to you in hopes that you open yourself to me.

This is our first date. We both know how we want this journey to end. Together, we take that first step.

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Daily Sexy Musings: Workplace Romances

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Romance comes in many forms, but some forms incur more complications than others. They can still work, but it tends to be more challenging. As a romance fan, I find myself most conflicted about workplace romances. On paper, it can be very sweet, starting off as a colleague and eventually becoming a lover. In practice, it tends to be a rocky road, even in the best of circumstances.

While it has become somewhat taboo in recent years due to the anti-harassment movement, workplace romances are still a thing. A statistically significant part of the population have admitted to dating a co-worker. Some even get married and that’s a beautiful thing. At the same time, it’s often hard to imagine how romance works within that dynamic.

In a professional environment, there are all sorts of power dynamics in play. Not everyone is an equal, in terms of rank and pay scale. This can cause some unavoidable difficulties for prospective lovers and not just in terms of harassment. How does a relationship work when one person has the ability to impact their lover’s career? How do they go about being good at their jobs in the midst of an ongoing romance?

Some claim it’s impossible. I’m not among that crowd. I tend to believe that if the love is strong enough, then two people can overcome almost any obstacle, including the inherent complications of sharing the workplace. I don’t deny that it’s one of the trickier romances to pull off and write about, but it is possible.

There many unique dynamics and challenges associated with workplace romances. That’s part of what makes them stand out. With this Daily Sexy Musing, I’ll attempt to channel the special kind of love that makes a workplace romance succeed. Pursuing love is hard enough, but pursing it alongside a co-worker is a daunting challenge, albeit one with sexy results. Enjoy!

We wake up at the same time.

We put on our professional attire.

We make the same commute.

We arrive in the same domain.

Our lives, our hearts, and our careers are linked. What started as a partnership has become more intimate. The line between our careers and the lives we build outside them blur. Then, once professional courtesy becomes intimate chemistry, the line shatters. In an instant, being a professional and being your lover are one in the same.

Once, we were co-workers.

Then, we became friends.

Then, we felt a deeper connection.

Then, amidst risks and scrutiny, we pursued it to the utmost.

I see you when you put on your best face and exercise your best skills. You carry yourself a certain way, knowing your career and your dreams hinge on it. The stakes are high and I’ve become part of that.

At the same time, you see at my best and at my worst. On good days, you see how I achieve my goals and make my living. My abilities are on full display for you and the world to see. When the days are bad, you watch me struggle. I am at my most distressed and disheveled. I cannot hide the upheavals in my professional life.

As professionals, we have a job to do.

As lovers, we have passions to share.

In two different worlds, we exercise two different selves.

In both worlds, we come together.

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Daily Sexy Musing: Sexy Singing

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Certain people are just born with an incredible singing voice. Famous musicians like Whitney Houston, Aretha Franklin, Taylor Swift, Michael Jackson, and Stevie Wonder came out of the womb with incredible talent and they’ve done plenty to nurture that talent. Between that talent and the music they make with it, there’s no denying the unique allure of their voice.

I say that as someone who freely admits he can’t sing worth a damn. I have many talents that I’m proud of, but singing isn’t one of them. I just don’t have the voice for it. I do know plenty of people who do and I’ve seen first-hand how it affects others. It’s not always sexual, but it can certainly have that effect.

A good singing voice is like a siren’s song. It draws people in and, with the right mood and melody, can make them very horny. I doubt it’ll surprise anyone that some of my favorite songs have some very sexual rhythms and connotations. Whether it’s a bubblegum pop song or one born of hard rock, it can really set a sexy mood.

Having a voice like that, or just having a lover with that kind of voice, is akin to having a super-power. When you can both sing and seduce, it makes for uniquely intense moments. Not everybody has the ability. I would even argue that only a minority of people have that sort of singing talent. That only makes the sex appeal more special.

I may not be able to sing, but I can try to capture that sex appeal with my words in this Daily Sexy Musing. That’s one talent I know I can wield. Enjoy!

We set the beat.

We start the melody.

We read the lyrics.

However, it’s you who brings it all together.

Your voice is the catalyst, but the show is just beginning. One word becomes a line and several lines become a refrain. Hot beats, intense rhythm, and heartfelt soul play out through every note and tone. In you, however, the song has heart. With it, you capture mine.

I can only listen in awe as you serenade my surroundings. My ears ring with the sweetest of sounds. Like a dining on my favorite treat, I am overwhelmed with joy and contentment. In this moment, the entire world comes together in a harmonious moment. Through your voice, a special energy consume all who hear it.

Every passion echoes through the lyrics.

Every tone resonates in my soul.

Every connection between us intensifies.

Within my head, the echoes resonate through every fiber of my being. Anyone can hear the sounds of beat and enjoy the rhythm of the melody. Only a select few can turn their voice into an instrument of poetry and grandeur. You are among those few.

I hear your song.

I cherish your voice.

I heed your call.

Through the harmony of song and rhythm, you tell me in few words what cannot be articulated fully. Without a voice like yours, I cannot hope to reply with a similar spectacle. However, that only means I must convey my love in other ways. I may not have a voice like yours, but that doesn’t mean we cannot share a concert.

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Daily Sexy Musing: Sexy Costumes

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With Halloween right around the corner, costumes are becoming a more relevant issue. A lot of kids are already contemplating what they’ll dress up as when they go trick-or-treating. Many more adults are probably contemplating what they can dress up as, either to attend a party or get a good laugh from someone.

It helps that more than a few of those adults will be seeking to dress as something overtly sexy. Sexy costumed versions of things have always existed, but it feels like they’ve become more mainstream in recent years. As a fan of looking sexy and dressing sexy, I’m all for it. I know it pisses off some people who are eager to get outraged over certain costumes, but those people don’t deserve our attention or sympathy.

For me, sexy costumes are even more relevant and not just because Halloween is coming soon. I just got back from another amazing day at New York Comic Con. Like in years past, I dressed up to share the experience with plenty of fellow cos-players. While my costume wasn’t that sexy, there were plenty of others who dare to push the envelope.

Sexy costumes aren’t specific to one time of the year. There’s really nothing from stopping anyone from wearing a sexy costume. When you have a lover who responds to it, then you have even more incentive. It’s fun. It’s playful. It can even be downright romantic. Between this, the Halloween spirit, and the New York Comic Con, sexy costumes are more than worthy of a Daily Sexy Musing. Enjoy!

We style our hair.

We put on a mask.

We smother ourselves with makeup, jewelry, and accessories.

We become someone else entirely.

It’s both liberating and refreshing, inhabiting the form of another. Whether born of fiction, history, or lore, we exchange our regular persona for something wildly different. Instead of blending in, we stand out. Nobody else looks, acts, and conducts themselves as we do. Our attire and demeanor is an aberration, but that’s exactly what makes it exciting.

In this new form, I feel a unique energy. Like tapping into a new source of power, I channel an outside spirit. This new persona dares to do things that I wouldn’t in my usual attire. I’ll cast you a deviant glance, implying deviant activities that you and I only contemplated in jest. Now, it’s serious. We’re not the same mundane lovers we once were.

We are superheroes saving the day.

We are monsters wreaking havoc.

We are villains causing chaos.

We are mythical figures come to life.

Filled with this energy and spirit, our love manifests in entirely new ways. I dare to be bolder, speaking in a voice that is not my own. You dare to match me every step of the way, sharing an intensity that gets my heart racing. It sends our passions into overdrive. The line between one persona and the other blurs.

Finally, it culminates.

Our new identities take over.

Our new passions are unleashed.

These costumes become more than elaborate attire. They are a new conduit for new passions. In this form, our love manifests in a very different way. It’s overwhelming, exhilarating, and even a little deviant. We know each other so well, but in these costumes, we realize just how much more there is to learn.

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Daily Sexy Musing: Sensitive Spots (Of All Kinds)

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We all have sensitive spots, literally and figuratively. There parts of our bodies or certain subjects that evoke a powerful reaction at the slightest stimulation. It’s not the same as being ticklish. That’s another form of sensitivity that has its own sexy connotations. The sensitive spots I’m referring to are more personal.

To love someone and be intimate wit them, you have to know their most sensitive spots to some extent. I’m not just referring to the sexy spots, although those certainly come into play. Some people respond to being touched a certain way. Others respond to certain words or gestures. It’s often subtle, but it can have a profound impact.

I once knew a guy who just loved having his girlfriend stroke his beard. I don’t know why it was such a big deal for him, but his girlfriend knew how much she loved it and they knew how to make use of it. They were a fun couple. They knew where those sensitive spots were and what to do with them.

Finding those spots usually requires more than just basic chemistry. You know your romance is getting serious when you start picking up on these kinds of subtleties. I hope this Daily Sexy Musing can make you more aware of it, if you aren’t already. Enjoy!

I know your weaknesses. With mere words, I can hit where few know to aim and strike a chord that few know is there. Through a targeted touch, I can do even more. Like a map full of shortcuts and secret routes, I’m able to make my mark and render you completely vulnerable.

At the same time, you know my weaknesses as well.

Sometimes, you don’t even need words. A simple glance is all it takes. In a moment of silence, you’re able to hit me in a way that feels like a tidal wave to the heart. It can be painful, but it’s also sobering. Being around you, I’m just as vulnerable. At the same time, the bond we share is strengthened.

We know the cracks in our armor.

We know the wounds on our egos.

We know the blind spots in our perceptions.

We know the flaws in our persona.

Having such insights grants us power, but how we use it grants us even more. What we do with our words can break us down, but what we do with our hands, lips, and bodies is just as powerful. Anyone can caress us. Only you and I know how to caress the right spots.

I touch the places you love to be touched.

You say the things I love hearing you say.

We make every gesture count, knowing where and how to convey our love.

The end result is profound. Our individual flaws become our collective strength. What might otherwise bring us distress can bring us ecstasy.

We took a chance. That chance became trust. That trust became insight. With it, we make each other cry out in delight. The most sensitive parts of our bodies and souls become the lock and key to our love.

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